We’re quite moderate on both! We never go hugely to town on presents - used to spend around £120-150 on DD (only child), and now she’s about 10 it’s probably around £200 including stocking gifts, a few smaller gifts, Christmas tops/outfit and main present.
I have a few siblings and niblings and probably spend up to £300 on relatives and friends - that includes around £30 per niece/nephew, between £30-40 on my siblings & partners (together - eg a small hamper type gift); plus around £50 each on my parents.
I then probably spend another £100 on presents for close/family friends and a couple of their kids, plus teachers/TAs/music teachers/cleaners/work secret Santa etc. Not expensive gifts, normally £10-20 at most!
DP and I spend about £50 on each other, usually just a few small things. We also probably spend around £50 on charity gifts / toys for Women’s Aid or another similar charity.
We spend around £200 on the big Christmas food shop for the few days over Christmas, including all food and alcohol - but we don’t go massively overboard either, eg. none of us like turkey, so we usually just get a good quality free range chicken. I normally use the nectar points I’ve built up over the year to pay for around half of this at Sainsbury’s.
So that comes to around £900.
I know we are lucky to be able to spend that much and lots of families can’t, especially in this economy. Equally many families seem to spend way way more! I know one of my siblings spends massively more than I do - like £400-500 per child and huge amounts on speciality food, Christmas meals out, etc. - it must run into thousands. Another of my siblings spends a lot less than we do, and is a much more budget-conscious. We also have definitely spent a lot less in the recent past - DP has just got a new job, so we are a bit less financially constrained this year than we have been in other years. I’ve definitely done all the presents above for less than £500 a few years ago. In addition to the things above, we probably do a theatre trip, a winter lights trail, and some kind of meal out during December, plus the cost of the tree, so that adds a bit more.
All in, I estimate it’s now about £1400 for Christmas overall, including presents, food and all those other things, given current prices. About 5 years ago I would do it all for £900-1000. But the cost of everything has risen massively of course, especially food and eating out. I read once that the average spend on Christmas is around 4-5% of gross household salary - I think we’re normally quite a bit less than that, actually!