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Kisses on work emails?

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BeadedBubbles · 22/10/2023 12:31

Does anyone do this/think it's okay? Recently started a new role and one of my new colleagues sometimes puts an x at the end of her emails to me. First time I thought it was a mistake but she's done it several times since.

Seems very unprofessional to me and a bit cringey. But maybe it's more common than I think?

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AnnaTortoiseshell · 22/10/2023 12:31

No, it’s weird.

PinkFootstool · 22/10/2023 12:33

Deeply unprofessional. I'd raise it with them.

Haveallthesongsbeenwritten · 22/10/2023 12:33

I have colleagues that i have been working with for 8 years + and sometimes we do put a x at the end of an email.

RosieLeaLovesTea · 22/10/2023 12:33

Yuk. Very unprofessional.

Missingmyusername · 22/10/2023 12:33

Could be an accident.

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BeadedBubbles · 22/10/2023 12:34

Missingmyusername · 22/10/2023 12:33

Could be an accident.

I thought that the first time but she's done it several times since.

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fishfingersandtoes · 22/10/2023 12:34

Dear beaded,
As per my last email progress meetings will now be biweekly, rather than weekly.
Love from fish xxx

🤣🤣🤣 love it

DeathRattleDazzle · 22/10/2023 12:35

About a work thing ie 'can I have that report by 12 noon on Thursday? Xx' would be odd.

About a more personal thing and someone I'm friendly with, absolutely fine 'hope you have a great holiday, and try not to think about the Jones file while you're off! x'

Sconehenge · 22/10/2023 12:35

I’ve had a few colleagues do it and while I wouldn’t do it I don’t find it offensive or an issue!

mindutopia · 22/10/2023 12:36

No, it’s not professional. Is it possible she does it by mistake? Especially if she’s responding on her phone.

I very nearly send a message with several kisses the other day to the farmer I source hay from for my horses. He’s a lovely guy, but he’s a 50 year old quite traditional sort of bloke and I would have had to find a new supplier if I’d actually send him a load of kisses when arranging a delivery. 😂

QueSyrahSyrah · 22/10/2023 12:36

Totally depends. To/from my male boss? No chance.

To/from my close friend who manages another department? Often, depending on the context of the email and if anyone else is copied.

Olika · 22/10/2023 12:38

I find it unprofessional.

MidnightOnceMore · 22/10/2023 12:39

Perhaps she signs all documents with an X?

But seriously, kisses don't belong at work.

Ffsnotaconference · 22/10/2023 12:40

I would let do it.

However, there’s some younger people in my office who do, do it. Only to colleagues they are on friendly terms with. And never on something that needs to forwarded. I let them get on with it.

If it makes you so uncomfortable ask her to stop it

StillWantingADog · 22/10/2023 12:40

Unprofessional. Ok with some close colleagues I’ve worked with for years.

It’s (irritatingly) normal for messages on messenger eg when you’re trying to sell sthg on marketplace. Some people clearly think it’s ok in all contexts. It’s not

TappingTed · 22/10/2023 12:40

Some emails are more casual and may have a x
I am unlikely to ever use one, but then often forget to give xxs to my actual loved ones via messages or texts too.
It isn't a big deal, they're not actual kisses on your lips...

theduchessofspork · 22/10/2023 12:40

I think it’s weird and it’s relatively unusual. But I know people who do.

CandyCane75 · 22/10/2023 12:40

We live in the Midlands where calling someone 'duck' is considered endearing, however, usually friends/family.

My husband is currently selling a business property and the Solicitor regularly puts 'thanks duck', or 'nearly there duck', when emailing about the sale. I find it pretty unprofessional. She's being friendly, I understand that, and probably a lovely woman, but all the same, I do find it odd!

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BeadedBubbles · 22/10/2023 12:42

Just to add, we work in different buildings and I've only met her once.

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Thebigblueballoon · 22/10/2023 12:43

If it was a colleague I was friends with, perhaps. It would probably depend on the nature of the email. Anybody else, nope. Weird.

EBearhug · 22/10/2023 12:46

Some people have done it, usually younger ones. Not just x, but also 😘and a huggy one. Yes, she was grateful and so on for me showingher how to do something, but still out of place at work, even in a friendly workplace.

I get on well with lots of colleagues- some are actual friends, and I've been on holiday with a couple of them. Still don't expect them to send xxx in work email - even when I've crossed boundaries enough to have slept with them - but we didn't do that in work. There's a time and a place.

Mind you the most disturbing mail ended "lots of love, Daddy.xxx" Manager's daughter has the same first name as me, and he didn't check the autofill. I already knew it wasn't for me, as it was going on about school orchestra stuff.

HelpMeGetThrough · 22/10/2023 12:55

It's ridiculous and unprofessional.

A member of a team I used to manage started this and was told to stop immediately.

UseOfWeapons · 22/10/2023 12:55

I’ve only done this by accident…in an email to our Chief Executive 🤭. I’d have a quiet word.

bluecalendula · 22/10/2023 12:56

i run my own small business and quite a few clients end emails with 'x'. I think as for them it's closely related to their hobby, so it doesn't feel professional in the same way.

If i worked in a conventional business, no way would I ever end messages with an x!

LlynTegid · 22/10/2023 16:36

Unprofessional in my opinion.

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