What are the signs someone's reaching end of life?

[Carmargo]

Hi I know this is a sensitive subject but a member of my extended family has advanced dementia. They have fallen twice in the last few weeks, broken bones are not eating and drinking and have a UTI.
It just seems like their whole body is breaking down. One thing after another.

I'm not super close to them but would like to see them. Their family is amenable to this. My employer is aware and I can have leave to travel the 10 hour round trip.
I'm asking here because I think it would be insensitive to ask her close family. Though of course they must know things aren't good.

Yes I know that none of us can know for sure but if you've knowledge please share. I don't want to leave it too late.

Sorry it should say eating and drinking very little.

Your description is accurate for the beginning of the end but add in sleeping constantly.

Thanks.

Could be years though. DH grandmother is 104, spends most of the day sleeping, limited appetite, broke her collar bone 1 year ago. But it has been 1 year of this...

When my dad was dying (cancer) in the last few weeks he just generally grew more weak and couldn't walk anymore and was very tired.
In the last few days he wasn't awake anymore, eating or drinking at all, wasn't communicating verbally anymore . In the last few hours we had the changes in breathing (death rattle ) and then he died the day that started . It was quite obvious even as non medical professional to me when the end of his life was near the end .
Hope you are ok

I heard something interesting.

If you notice a change in a month, the person tends to have months to live.
If you notice a change within a week, the likely have weeks to live.
If you notice a change within a day, days.

From experience, the death rattle occurred a couple of days before death. Skin was paler. There was almost a line where the blood had pooled more into the bottom/underside of the person's body. Hands and feet were colder.

As a pp said, it's obvious when the time is near. I've just lost my nana and slowly over the last year i could see things weren't right (eating less but not enough to worry) becoming more frail then all of a sudden my nana quickly went downhill (4-5 weeks ago). She had a DNR and wanted no interventions so things progressed quickly (within about 2 weeks) days before she died we noticed her becoming irritatable, eating virtually nothing for days and sleeping more. One day she sounded a bit phlegmy and within hours she had the death rattle, she died about 12 hours later.

Thanks for replies and condolences to those who have lost loved ones.

It's probably best that I go ASAP.

Things are going downhill fast.