Is there anything I can do to help my friend?

[CurlewKate]

I'm sure there isn't-but just in case...

A very dear friend of mine lives in Australia. Her partner(who I don't know) is dying-they say about a week to 10 days-so it's a horrible waiting game. I send her a text night and morning her time-just a short loving message with no need to reply, although sometimes she wants a brief chat. She has some good local friends so I don't want to send her anything- they will have that in hand. I know there's nothing I can do except be available- but just in case.....

I think that this sounds perfect and is probably helping her more than you realise. She doesn’t have to reply if she’s not up to it, she knows you’ll listen to her if she needs it and you’re not making it all about you and avoiding her because you’re feeling too awkward to talk to her. I think you’re striking a really good balance.

I think it's important to remember how hard this will be for her in the longer term. What you are doing now is perfect but it will be in the next couple of years that she will need continued support and that can be when other people drift back to their normal lives and begin to forget.