WWYD? Mortified!!

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DD8 Y4 came home from school yesterday and was chatting to me about her day.
She went on to start talking about her 'friend' who she has recently become close with since the start of this school year, DD tells me new friend is often quite bossy and can sometimes be a bit rude.

Anyways, DD told me that whilst in lesson yesterday, new friend turned round to DD and said "imagine if X was sucking his you know what under the duvet" referring to two other pupils in the class!!!!! I can not believe it. I explained to DD that this was very inappropriate and I don't want her engaging in conversations like that.

But WWYD? Should I pull new friends mum up this morning on the school run or should I save her the embarrassment and just go straight to safeguarding?

Thanks!

I think I would go to the school with that, rather than the parent. As you say, the safeguarding lead will know how to handle the conversation.

I’d go to thr school rather than the parent but I’ve no idea why you’re mortified .

Go to the school.

@Frasers sexually explicit language from such a young child can be a warning sign.

Kids say really stupid things, especially at that age. Even your child will say stupid things. When my son was 9 (he's now 20), he showed everyone on the playground what 'humping' was. He had learnt it from the dog 🙄

It is very unlikely to be 'safeguarding'. The school will deal with it.

Surely because a child in Y4 should not be having these conversations or have any knowledge of what "sucking his you know what" even means??

Approaching the parent never goes well. It happened in school so let them know and they’ll deal with it.

"Mortified" means shamed or embarassed. I would've thought "shocked" would be a better description.

School! Safeguarding alarm bells. Do not speak to parent.

Report to school. Their safeguarding lead will know what to do.

Agree mortified is the wrong word. Horrified would be more apt.

Speak to the school. You have no idea what might be going on at home.

Tell the school.
Do not tell the parent. Never ever goes well when you speak to another parent about their child.

Straight to the safeguarding lead at school. As pp says, the child could be going through something at home. Her description is very vivid and nowhere comparable to copying humping from a dog.

You probably need another conversation with your DD, because you still want her to come yo you as she grows up and understands more.

I also don’t understand the policing of OP’s description of her own feelings? If she felt embarrassed at her 8 year old describing such things, it’s her feelings.
Im sure she can be given advice

Definitely talk to the school. I had to when mine was younger with similar content but a bit younger and sadly known the child was in questionable home. Meant they could report not that it helped the poor kid long term.