I have 4 kids, 3 living at home and am in a relationship with partner who has 1 who he has 3 weekends out of 4. My 2 youngest kids go Sunday day time to their dads.
Weekly there are kids activities each night except Friday then there are 2 activities Saturday and 1 Sunday.
I don't live with my partner although he does stay over regularly and helps out with the kids and housework when he's here. He will help with activities if he can.
Most evenings he is here we will get time in front of TV together at least an hour and chat time before sleep in bed.
In the last few months we agreed a monthly date night on a Saturday night but he has asked for more time just the two of us. He asked for one Sunday a month as an example but I am not prepared to give up going to my eldest sons activity on a Sunday so this is not possible. It feels like putting myself before my son if i did that.
How do other people make more time for dating in a situation with 5 kids?
I will say that when we started dating 10 months ago I said I could be free Saturday nights and Sundays but things have changed.
Realistically all I can offer is one evening alone a month for us and if there is a cancellation on a Sunday that day for us if he hasn't got his child.
I'm stressed feeling that I'm trying to satisfy my partner and all the kids and it's not possible.