Do you ever think about how one thing could have changed your entire life?

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Like for example if you met your partner through work but in a different reality you (or they) had got a different job and therefore you’d never met and you would likely be with someone else.

Or for example what if your parents had moved and you’d gone to a different school, or you decided on a different university - then you would have a completely different circle of friends.

It’s like the film Sliding Doors, where if she’d got the tube she would have caught her boyfriend cheating and if she missed it then she wouldn’t.

More to the film than that but that’s the basics of it.

The Midnight Library by Matt Haig?

I met my DH when I literally bumped into him in a nightclub. I dropped my last £2 coin so demanded he buy me a drink! The rest was history, but I often think about how easily we could have not met!

I need to get back to this. Started it but didn't get swept up...

Yes, if my mum had let me go to the private school I was offered a full schloarship at instead of saying it wasn't fair to my siblings for me to go and them not then my life would be really different

I came back from a year abroad and needed a flatshare urgently as I was sofa surfing at a friend's house. So I found a room asap, moved my stuff in - and then spent the whole night awake with this horrible feeling that it was the wrong place for me and I couldn't do it. So I went back on it, lost my deposit and everything, moved back to friend's (god how annoying was I) and a week later found another flatshare and moved in. Through that place and my flatmates, I met so many friends, my ex who I had my DC with, without whom I wouldn't have met all my school/mum friends, and everything would have been totally different.

I mean it happens all the time in little ways of course. But that was a real sliding door for me.

I think about this all the time!

Too many to mention.

At 12 years old, a woman from the Samaritans told me that I would be accepted for fostering, given my home situation. I wish I'd done that.

At 20 in the red rec, walking away from my ex, knowing I shouldn't stay with him but turning to him and thus staying with him.

At Camden Palace when I was 21, a guy offered my friend and me a lift home to Hammersmith - we walked a couple of miles to his car and I knew I could fall in love with him. Everything was so calm on that walk - I wasn't used to that. Of course instead I stayed with ex - the bane of my life - and the guy I'd met didn't keep in touch, because he respected my relationship more than my ex or I did.

Imagine meeting the love of your life whilst off your head on drugs. Sounds so messed up imo.

One thing did change my life and it was awful but actually what I hadn’t realised was there were other issues there. When I addressed the “big” issue the rest of the issues came out and I was finally able to deal with things. I’m a things happen for a reason person now.

Do you generally piss on other people’s joy like this, or are you just having an off day?

It’s amazing really! It blows my mind

If I, and my parents, had known I was autistic when I was a child my whole life would have been different.
My relationship with my father would have been different
I would have had more support to make me work at my 'A' levels so I would have passed first time
I wouldn't have gone to the local college to retake, so I wouldn't have met my children's father and got pregnant..... etc. etc. etc.
However, I wouldn't have had the children I have - and that would be a very bad thing, and my life would have been so different I wouldn't have met my DH, and that would be terrible!

@tooktyewalletyopoolsbf she was actually a bridesmaid at our weddings