9 year old really emotional lately

[lucozadeaddict1988]

Hey.
My eldest DD is 9, she's an emotional ticking time bomb.
We had parents evening earlier this week and her teacher mentioned how withdrawn she's become, looking like she's about to cry if she's made a mistake, or asked to show working out/explain her answer.
At home she's also become really emotional, sometimes she doesn't know why, other times it's over something or nothing, eg doing homework, getting a bath?!!, time to come off pc, going out somewhere at weekend.

Is this an age thing?

School are obviously aware and one of the teaching assistants are starting some 1:1 time with her which I'm hoping will help,
At home we have (this week) reduced screen time(she gets about 1.5hrs-2hrs gaming/watching youtube on pc) , brought bedtime about an hour earlier so she's getting more sleep.

After any suggestions, tips, advice, help etc please, anything we can't try

Thank you

It could be the onset of puberty.

Yes I agree with @Awwlookatmybabyspider you should expect periods to start in a few months .
Other than that , has she got the same friends , talks about her friendships ect ?
Hopefully no bullying going on.

Yes same friendship group, and she's not mentioned any bullying etc, I have tried asking and school isn't aware of anything either.
I have looked into emotions and puberty, I think I was 11 when my periods started so she's a bit younger but it's a possibility. I will try have a chat over the Weekend with her, 🙈

Have a read about adrenarche.

My almost 9yo is very emotionally disregulated at the moment, mainly just at home (horrible for me as I seem to be baring the brunt of it but at least its not spilling into school life).

Quite likely to be the onset of puberty.

That doesn't necessarily mean that she's about to start her periods. Her emotions could be all over the place because of the hormonal changes going on.

I've taught year 3 for the last few years and have had 8 year olds struggling with overwhelming emotions, generally girls.

One thing that can help a bit is to reassure children that it's normal to get very upset or angry etc and to not know why. There's nothing wrong with them. Their body and brain are just going through a lot of changes.

My year 4 about to turn 9 year old DS is exactly the same. It’s a big change in him as although always a bit dramatic, he has generally been quite a chilled, happy soul.

It is quite hard to adjust parenting to try and help them.

Hey, yes I had a chat last night, I know they started to discuss growing up at school at the start of term so maybe have continued. When we started to speak she got really upset so I think part of her worries are growing up, body changing etc, so we had a good chat about it, explained it's OK and I'm here for her always, tried to explain what happens and it's OK to be upset and cry.
Thanks everyone x

This happened to my son when he was experiencing anxiety. It usually manifests as emotional outbursts such as the ones you describe.

My son was worried about getting things wrong or making mistakes. Children aren't good at recognising anxiety so it comes out in different ways.

We got some help through school but they also recommended a book called helping your child with fears and worries.

He's absolutely fine now, it was just a phase and we got him some help but it was tricky at the time.