Did you (or know someone) disinvite someone to your wedding?

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Just a storyline in a show I watch, but curious to see if it’s happened to anyone on here. Or if it happened the other way around and you got disinvited?

There was a thread on here not long ago where the OP was looking for advice on how to let her colleagues know they could no longer come to her wedding, after she'd sent them 'Save the Dates'.
She didn't listen to any of the advice offered though.

Yes. It was utterly devastating but for very personal reasons, I wouldn't have got married if they'd come. Absolutely hideous time and I really wish it hadn't had to be that way. I will never get over it and they were extremely distressed.

My DH and I were demoted once from day guests to evening only, but that was his fault really as it was work colleagues of his and he'd changed jobs in the meantime and is really terrible at staying in touch remotely. He barely even texts his own mother back.

Yes, in the last couple months I have uninvited a very close friend. Her behaviour on my hen (abroad) was shocking and so when we got home I informed her she was no longer welcome.

Lots of gaslighting since but I've now blocked her. Slightly tricky as she is extended family on my partners side, but I won't tolerate that crap.

Wedding is next year

Slightly different but a good friend of mine decided not to come to our wedding with 3 days notice. She was upset about the fact we hadn't invited someone that she thought we should have (someone on the edge of our friendship group that I've never spent a lot of time with).

Neither of us were wrong in our decision, we both stuck to our guns and while it was upsetting at the time we've actually come out of it closer as we respect each other for neither backing down nor kicking off, and not letting it become a 'thing' that damaged the wider friendship group.

FWIW the acquaintance who wasn't invited has never seemed especially bothered and is always fine with us (DH and I) when we see her.

I had a few I didn’t invite after sending a save the date. All friends, one because she’d fallen out with every other friend and most people disliked her, she also made up some lies which was the final straw for me. Another because she said some awful things about my sister and another because I just drifted apart.

I was disinvited to a wedding years ago due to the brides brother lying and bad mouthing me. I was gutted at the time but have nothing to do with any of them anymore now.

I disinvited a male friend who my sister had a very real valid issue with (not abuse related). I understood the issue although I did not have the same one and sat down with him and explained that my sister had to come first which he accepted. We’re still friends now and I went to his wedding recently.

I had to ask my bridesmaid not to come to my wedding in the end. She was disinterested in being involved from the beginning and had planned to turn up right as the ceremony would begin and leave straight after the meal. So I told her it might be best if she didn't bother at all. It ended our friendship but she created such drama over the months leading up to the wedding that i was glad to see the back of her. She bought her bridesmaid dress without even asking me, didn't want any part in the ceremony itself and tried to argue with me that boots would look lovely with her dress. I was trying to organise a house move and a wedding together and she nearly drove me insane with her awkwardness. It was the best decision I ever made and we had a lovely day without her

We were disinvited to BIL (DH brother) wedding in Scotland when things started to open up after covid lockdowns. BIL said that the registrar had asked them to reduce the number attending, so they decided to cancel those of us who had to travel up from South west England. That meant 2 siblings, partners and families got cut from the do. The other sibling and family who lived closer got to go. She must have been asked to keep quiet because we spoke to her a week before and she didn't say a word about going. We only found out when we saw the video afterwards.
The annoying thing was that we had booked accommodation, organised our summer holiday to incorporate the wedding and booked ferries to the island.