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At what age are you considered elderly

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Jenasaurus · 16/10/2023 20:07

I was watching an advert for a bra. It said it was designed for seniors I am 58. Am I the target market? Just suddenly dawned on me that I'm no longer middle age as online it says 65 is considered elderly. Apparently in the 1950s 55 was thought of as old age. I know everyone I'd different. I have a friend that wanted to move into a retirement village at 47. I guess it doesn't matter as long as I'm healthy. what age do you think as elderly

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LindorDoubleChoc · 16/10/2023 21:36

Onlywords · 16/10/2023 20:28

At 47 I will have a 12 and a 9 year. I would say elderly hopefully a good few years past retirement. I think it depends on the person and their health.

This isn't unusual at all. I had my eldest at 38. I know an awful lot of women who had children in their 40s.

GlacindaTheTroll · 16/10/2023 21:39

You're definitely not elderly if below the state pension age

Unless you're an iPad, in which case you are elderly at about 5 years

caringcarer · 16/10/2023 21:44

I think 65 + is old age and by 70 as person is elderly. That is not to say they can't still do things and have poor health, just that they are elderly in years.

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jenpil · 16/10/2023 21:46

UtterlyUnimaginativeUsername · 16/10/2023 20:13

Honestly, I'd say 80. But when I was younger, I'd probably have said 65. I'm 43 now; I reckon by the time I'm 80, my idea of 'elderly' will be 140.

Hahaha, yes, this! 😂😂😂

OhDoSitDownAndShutUp · 16/10/2023 21:49

A GP told me that 65 is what the medical profession considers "elderly". I'm 64, so not long to go...

baileybrosbuildingandloan · 16/10/2023 21:56

Lighttodark · 16/10/2023 20:22

Over 60/65

Really?
I work 52 hrs a week and just ran a half marathon.
I'm 61.

Johnisafckface · 16/10/2023 22:01

I remember when I told an ex that mother had died he said, "Well she WAS elderly". I was shocked as she was only 62 (we were early/mid 30s at the time). To me elderly is prob around 75 (i'm 52) but it always changes for me cause i see such spry "elderly" people so i want to bump up the age to 80 but then I see people in their 70s that aren't getting along very well so I want to drop it. But on average I'd say around mid 70s

eewan · 16/10/2023 22:01

Defo agree with pp's saying it's a stat of mind not an age thing. My mums 63 and I wouldn't class her as elderly at all, I probably only started thinking of my Nan as elderly when she got to late 70's/early 80's. A close friends dad is 81 and still works a few hours a week, walks the dog, gardens and is currently fitting a new kitchen himself, he's got a youthful mindset and you'd think he was more 50 than 80.

DreamTheMoors · 16/10/2023 22:04

Lighttodark · 16/10/2023 20:22

Over 60/65

Wait until you’re 60/65.

Princesspollyyy · 16/10/2023 22:31

I work on an elderly care ward, and 'elderly' is 65 plus.

OneWildNightWithJBJ · 16/10/2023 22:40

I was going to say 80, but then thinking about my dad who is 77, he in no way seems elderly. So I reckon 90.

I’m mid-40s and still have at least 15 years until middle age 😀.

AlexaCanYouHearMe · 16/10/2023 22:44

It's officially 65! But I think it should be changed to 75 quite frankly. Or even 80! 65 doesn't seem that old.

I am knocking the door of 60, (late 50s!) and really feel OK, fairly healthy, quite youthful, sound mind, body OK, can walk a long way, travel abroad once a year alone, and once with DH, as well as a few weekend breaks in the UK, and I do all the home admin and shit.

I still work, (24 hours a week,) I swim (one mile) 3 times a week, I cycle 3-4 miles a few times a week, I walk 2-3 miles three or four times a week, and I have a 20-something daughter who I see often and sometimes have lunch with her and her buddies.

I have friends in their 30s and 40s, and I go to pop and rock concerts (of current chart acts,) and theatre shows. I feel (in my head) like 35! No way am I six to seven years off fucking ELDERLY! 😆

I have 3 very good friends who are 5 to 10 years younger than me, who I get on with brilliantly. But I actually get on better/have more in common with people who are actually 20-30 years younger than me, than people who are even TEN years older. I cannot imagine anything worse than going into a residential home, or set of retirement flats with people over 65! I still feel quite young, and the thought of being regarded as elderly in six or seven years is actually fucking hilarious! 😂

Greengagesummer65 · 16/10/2023 22:54

Was very shocked to be in hospital recently and told that anyone over 65 is automatically admitted to the geriatric ward 😲 At 58, I was able to dodge that one for now but I admit it rather rattled me!

Tarne · 16/10/2023 23:17

To me elderly means you are very wrinkled with translucent skin, PLUS being stooped, unsteady on your feet, shuffle or walk with difficulty, PLUS if you are unwilling to learn new things, are stiff, unfit, inactive and have poor health such as difficulty hearing and seeing.

GlacindaTheTroll · 17/10/2023 08:48

Princesspollyyy · 16/10/2023 22:31

I work on an elderly care ward, and 'elderly' is 65 plus.

That'll shift in line with the rise to the state pension age.

It's only 65 from habit and the old pensionable age

DanceMumTaxi · 17/10/2023 08:58

I would definitely say over 80, but it depends on the health of the individual I’d say. Our neighbour is 80 and he’s doing great - walks loads, still drives, goes on holiday, gets out and about etc so I don’t particularly think of him as elderly. However, I’ve known others of a similar age who were frail and living in care homes. My mum is mid 60’s and the in-laws early 70s neither of them are elderly.

HappyDaze23 · 17/10/2023 09:30

In the NHS when we are talking about the elderly population then we are talking about those over 75 in the main - but we start to talk about the elderly in the context of frailty as being the important indicator that tells you about someone’s health and their level of decline. So we can better understand the difference w between a robust 85 year old and a housebound 75 year old when we look at health data.

Being elderly is not about age on its own. It is about the health state you are in, the number of long term conditions you have etc. What is really shocking is that you will see that in the more deprived parts of the country, ill health and long term conditions kick in at a much younger age, so being elderly happens much younger. Same with life expectancy - those in deprived areas will live a far shorter life with more time spent in ill health on average.

Lapirogue · 17/10/2023 11:45

My elderly relative used to talk about 'the old folk' in her nursing home. She was 95.

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 17/10/2023 11:47

Lighttodark · 16/10/2023 20:22

Over 60/65

Bloody hell (69 here).

WandaWonder · 17/10/2023 11:47

I am thinking when a person is no longer of use to a younger person

Can't look after my kids for me, you're elderly

Edithisoverthere · 17/10/2023 11:57

I think 60 is senior with old starting at 55 perhaps. There's a difference in my mind between the two words.
70+ elderly.

Yellowsubmarineunderthesea · 17/10/2023 12:04

Old age at 55 ffs 😂😂. I'm fitter now than I was at 40 and more capable with technology than a lot of way younger people

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 17/10/2023 12:07

Yellowsubmarineunderthesea · 17/10/2023 12:04

Old age at 55 ffs 😂😂. I'm fitter now than I was at 40 and more capable with technology than a lot of way younger people

DGM emigrated to Australia in her 80s. In her mid 60s she started being carer for us three kids while DM went out to work. I can imagine what she'd have said about 55 being old age. Can't say what I think about that comment, being banned isn't nice 🙄

toomanyleggings · 17/10/2023 12:09

80 in my book

RuthW · 17/10/2023 12:09

I work in NHS. Elderly is over 75

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