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Not even sure why I'm posting, think I'm just needing to get some of this off my chest.
I'm mid 40s, married 20+ years and have 3 kids. To the outside world life is good, good jobs, nice house, healthy kids etc so I know I have lot to be grateful for, but, I'm just so low and unhappy and can't snap out of it. Have felt like this for a few months now. I know I'm menopausal and that I'm also dealing with bereavement and also waiting to go for an op (nothing serious) but I think it's more than that.
Dare I say a mid life experience (rather than crisis) 🤷🏼‍♀️
It just feels like life is eat sleep work repeat, with running a house and running after kids thrown in.
Not sure what I'm looking for in the way of responses here tbh but does anyone else sometimes just think is this it? Is this as good as life gets?
Px

I can relate OP.

When I was in my 40s I felt that there really wasn't much to life.
School runs, work, homework, cooking, tidying and weekends were for chores that couldn't be fitted in during the working week.

It grinds you down , but, it does get better.
The children get older and take some of the burden eg sorting out their own laundry and keeping their rooms in ( some sort!) of order. They'd chip on with taking bins out and food prep. They'd help in the garden and eventually, before you know it, they're not reliant on you at all, cook their own meals due to their hours or circumstances, they'd go shopping for you etc...

Then they're gone.

There's just us two now. House is usually tidy and clean. Then you wonder how you got through it all.

Honestly, try and revel a bit in family chaos. It'll be gone before you know it. Wish I could relive some of it, if I'm honest.