Running around after friend ?

[settleupandgo]

My friend has got into a habit of asking me to pick up things from the shop on the way to hers. This wouldn't be a problem except:
She messages me about 5 minutes before I'm due to arrive at hers. I'm driving (to hers), she would know that. I don't pick up messages while I'm driving. I have usually been to the shop on way to hers to pick up my food/drink contribution for the evening and then she unknowingly messages me after my shop run.
Her timings to ask me to get things is just dreadful. For example: I will have been to the shop on way to hers and got my bits. I get back into the car in The shop carpark to then receive a message from her with the things she wants. I then have to go back into shop. OR go to shop during the day to get my contributions for that eve. She messages me later in the day to ask me to pick up stuff on my way to her. I then have to decond shop run.
This is all stuff for our eve, food and drinks. I don't mind picking up her share (she gives me the cash) but I've usually done my shop run by the time she messages me. I'm running around going to the shop twice.
We both work FT. We both have DC and houses to run. I'm just more organised

Bump

You don't have to do anything. Ignore the message and drive to her house. She will soon learn to text you sooner if you don't pick up her things.

I'm gonna have to. I'm running around stressing myself out with it all.

Anyone else got thoughts or experienced similar?

Tell her what you’ve typed here and that she needs to let you know in advance and if she doesn’t tough toenails, she will need to go shopping herself.

When you get to the shops, message her and say you’re just at the shops, does she want you to pick up anything for tonight?

Cut her off at the pass, so to speak.

Literally, oh my phone run out of battery/isn’t charging so battery went when I left, if you don’t want to tell her the truth.
Otherwise it’s “no I’ve just got back in my car, I’m on my way”

Sounds very annoying

If you have finished shopping and she texts you - just ignore it and when you get to hers and she asks where are X or Y you just tell her that you had finished in the shop before she text you so you missed it.

Ask her the day before what she wants you to pick up for the next eve. Give her 24 hours!

Yep ask her the night before or even a couple of days before.

I'll be going to the shops X so I need to know anything you would like before then. In fact even ring her as you walk in x

She asks you to do these things but you dont "have to" - learn to say no. And ask her to plan so that she has got whatever is required herself.
And learn to "ignore" messages. Selective memory etc.

'hi friend, sorry I've already been to the shop'