Do you think there's a useful universal response to most problems in "Relationships"?

[CurlewKate]

I am old and cynical and I usually want to post some form of LTB, because I genuinely think that people don't change and it's usually that or put up with it. But I was trying to think of something a bit gentler and thought of "If your adult daughter was in your situation and asked for advice, what would you say?" Because surely that would be food for thought?

I think mine would be “do you think he/she treats you as his/her equal?”

Because most shitty behaviour is down to the other partner having either no respect for them, or thinking they are superior to their partner.

If you'd seen this in a crystal ball when you were first introduced, would you have gone anywhere near them?
Gambling, shagging, drugs, laziness, cocklodgery, general dickishness

I think LTB is the only response needed to most of the threads in relationships. It baffles and infuriates me that so many women are willing to sacrifice themselves and their children on the alter of male selfishness and entitlement.

I usually think that if you're questioning your relationship and having to ask strangers, you know the answer.

"Do you respect him?" worked for a friend who was hung up on a on-off DP who was treating her badly. I'm not sure LTB (however worthy) works unless the OP is looking for permission to do so.

LTB but sometimes have you actually told them you don’t like X or Y to try to sort this

"You should want better for yourself/your children."

Has he been loyal? Has he treated you and the relationship with respect?

If you have that much doubt, get the hell out.