Lay on daughters sofa

[cheshirecatssmile]

I'm never normally awake at this hour.
Can't be arsed name changing

Basically 3-4 weeks ago I knew my relationship was over.
I had a nervous breakdown
Partner was about as supportive as a chocolate teapot
My son on the other hand has been fab, so have my daughters that no longer live at home.

Tonight was the mother of all arguments. He needs to make his mind up whom I'm meant to be having an affair with.
It's like arguing with a child.
I went to walk away and he lashed out.
Caught me on the side of my eye. Its slightly bruised.
So I left
I'm on my daughters sofa as the title says.
I've already made a housing application a few weeks ago and the email says that I'm adequately house and they won't help.
Doesn't help my name is on the deeds to the house.

I've had the gaslighting phone calls.
Told him to fuck off.
I can't sleep
I'm lay here with the dog, wasn't leaving her behind , chain smoking.

Report him to the police for the assault, take your crime reference number to the council and report as homeless due to fleeing domestic abuse, they have a duty to house you

My problem is the dog
She's mine
I'm not leaving her behind

I tried calling the police 101 but lines always busy.
Then makes me wonder if it's worth it as nothing will come of it.

I'm tired
I have a headache from stress and feel very lonely tonight

Have you taken a photo of the bruise? Keep copies of any abusive messages.

I am sorry you are going through this

I've got to go back to the house tomorrow
Need to photocopy the deeds to the house etc
My ducks weren't quite in a row.
Also need work uniforms etc and phone round some solicitors

He's a prick

Can you take your son / someone with you when you go to get your stuff? Remember your passport also.

You must keep calling police. You might need this in the future. If you need to keep your dog, then your best bet is probably to kick him out of the house so you can get back in. Call https://www.ncdv.org.uk/ who might be able to help with an occupation order.

He will be at work and my son will be home.

Can't believe I just went fuck this shit and left.
Grabbing some stuff and walked out.

Maybe all the mental stuff Ive apparently been doing ie woman's rights has paid off and given me balls

Oh I'm also mental due to my hobby 🙄

You obviously just couldn’t accept any more of his crap - and certainly not him lashing out at you. Great that you’ve left (I know lots to sort out and advise to seek but you can do that while finally being free to be you).
Sounds like he needs a fucking hobby 🙄 like trying to pull his head out of his arse maybe.

email police. at very least-write it out.now
what when etc...like a statement. give them that.in morning,first thing is
contact womans aid- (...or one of your multiple choice alternative lovers?)-//prick..aaagh im sorry. i been there.my humour is warped. a hobby?a "new"one---= rock the boat!(how dare you have a independant intrest)yup prick.
It ISNT like arguing with a child. hes pathetic.
please dont let your guard down.
HE is emotionally manipulating you with (presumeably)false accusations which indicate he is a cnut.(the paranoia generally stems from guilt.im not say hes cheating BUT by christ he KNOWS hes inadequate.)
and throws hands once? well thats new
isnt even sorry(i only ever got half kicks apparently,like when you pass ball a meter not aim for goal)-broke jaw,crakt ribs,lost teeth............but was all cos he loved me and I led his head that way.
you can get hoose deeds online?.
how old is your son?

Morning bad nights sleep
I've snuck in the house
Need to photocopy and make some phone calls
Reported to 101 last night. Eventually
An officer will be in touch.
Yeah right.
Dogs having the time of her life, sleep overs 🙄
Will call the council and WA as well

@Wasywasydoodah
Just the let you know I used the link and it's been helpful
He's left
So going for an occupation order

Glad things have progressed to your advantage.. And bloody fantastic you took ddog and didn't leave it with that shit...

Well I've lost 11 stone of dead weight
And all his shit is in bags ready to be collected.
I've instructed solicitors.

It's been a really hard week
Dealing with this whilst working and trying to stay sane
I've not slept in days
Was very tearful last night, being attacked by a patient probs didn't help.

I'm so sorry you're going through this op. He's a waste of space and I'm glad you know you deserve better.

Womens aid will be able to support you with the legal process and offer counselling and help navigating the issues around housing etc. Would be worth getting in touch with them. Also so you've someone to speak to who really 'gets' it.

You've already taken the hard steps of leaving which is amazing because it's not an easy thing to do. If you need to go to the house and you're in any way thinking he might be there, you can ask the police to be there to 'keep the peace' they won't do anything unless he kicks off but they'll basically just be present at the front door as a deterrent. Again womens aid can set this up for you and a worker could go with you.

Make sure you get all your important documents and if he's left I'd arrange a locksmith while you're there to change the locks if you feel safe to. If you do get locks changed and decide to stay there I'd keep an emergency bag and docs at your dds as a back up incase he rocks up and is intimidating. Hopefully it won't come to that but many men become more volatile when you leave because they've lost control and people start to see them for who they really are. Womens aid can also get your address red flagged for fast response if you don't feel safe at the house or at your dds house.

Done the forms for none molestation and occupation order
I can't get legal aid due to earning to much
So will have to self represent in court.
I've been awake since 3.28am
I'm not eating
Living off caffeine and cigarettes

How are things today? @Lavender14

Ah sorry that was for @cheshirecatssmile

Been signed off work for a month , upper my AD and put on sleepers
Got seen by a mental health nurse through work who diagnosed me with acute (?) clinical depression
I couldn't even look her in the face
And sat for 2 hours crying
Tried one of the sleepers last night. Feel awful today and not much sleep.

I don't know where to start.
I'm safe at present
He's not here
But my nerves and head is fucked
I need a tiny bit of self care before anything else now. I'm broken

Just want to send some support, and also admiration for your strength in getting this far. You needs lots of self care now, take your time and be kind to yourself.