Stop The World I Want To Get Off!

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Wondering if any of you Mumsnetters are of the so called “ sandwich generation” where you have pre - teen or teenage children & parents that are of an age where they need more help? I’m 57 & an older Mum with DD14 & my parents are in their mid 80s. I work part time in retail. DD14 is neuro divergent with a lot of other mental health issues, some of which stem from being adopted as a baby. It can be incredibly stressful & has at times put a strain on my & DH’s marriage. DM has Parkinson’s & osteoporosis & I am her part time carer. Finding it difficult to carve out much me time or quality time with DH. I have money & a voucher put aside for a spa day and additional treatments but really not sure when I can indulge! Would be heaven! Does anyone know where I’m coming from?

Oh grief
I often feel like that - but I think I'd give you may place on the rocket ship out of here

Yeah, a lot of us have done it. I had elderly parents, adult ACs, and grand kids...It ends at some point, just have to plough on until that time. 🤷‍♀️

TiredOldLady how do I edit my title please?

Adoptive mum of two here and I’m definitely having that kind of week. Trying to pack for holidays, finish up at work, prepare for a new job, and deal with a significant safeguarding issue. No parents to cope with but I feel overloaded and overwhelmed - stopping the world feels ideal right now.

Yes, I can relate. Parents both in their late 80s - and Mum has Parkinson's like your mum. Dad is pretty useless and she is doing far too much, and falls quite often. I found her bringing the coal in the other week, although she is tiny and frail and he is over 6ft and has no real health issues. He's just sitting there watching tv whilst she cooks and cleans around him.

I work full time, long hours in a stressful job, and DH has poor health and no income. Still got a teenager at home, got others in their 20s with various issues and worries who phone for support and reassurance (mostly emotional rather than financial).

I hate the fact that I am financially responsible for everything - still paying a mortgage and all the bills. God knows at what point I can retire and stop. I'm still doing all the life admin as DH is hopeless. He potters around the shed and garden like a cheerful little old man, and I love him to bits - but God! What I would give for someone to just take half the bloody burden of life off me.

Flowers for you, OP and for everyone else out there!💐

Absolutely, you have my sympathies! I'm in a very similar situation, down to the elderly relative with Parkinson's (FIL in my case) and DD14 with autism and mental health problems. I have two spa day vouchers tucked in my top drawer (one dates to before COVID) and never the time to use them. Struggling to manage working 4 days a week, while DD is only able to go to school occasionally. When my mum had surgery recently it felt like the extra demands of helping her out while she recovered were going to tip me over the edge, even though she tried to ask the bare minimum. Hang on in there, hope things will get easier for you soon

Fml
Sending you love and support
Across the internet. I am not even there yet. All 4 parents merrily rocking along but have 4dc and am
Fucking shattered.