Hey,
Dp kicked off Christmas discussions a few days ago.
He wants his mum and sister to stay Xmas eve and have Xmas dinner together, then go to see my family later in the evening. His reason being they're lonely.
For background Dp's partner died years ago and his other sister is travelling and not due back till mid January. So MIL said she doesn't want to cook Xmas day and would just be doing a buffet for lunch. She'll then do Xmas dinner when SIL returns from travelling and celebrate then properly. We used to live with my family until we moved into our own place earlier this year. We have one Dd who is almost 3 and really looking forward to Christmas this year. IL's live close by, so they don't need to stay over iyswim. Plus we don't have a huge place.
I was really looking forward to having our own Xmas morning, then seeing IL's a little later in the morning once we have had the chance to do stocking and presents before we see IL's. I love them both but IL's tend to expect the same every year. I don't mind spending some of our Christmas with them but I don't want to end up commiting to the same every year. SIL tends to take over a little bit with Dd and I won't get any time to enjoy our Christmas morning because she won't give us a little time together. I'm happy to share most of Xmas with others but not the whole day.
Dp has said it's up to both of us. But I know this is what he wants.
Am I unreasonable to say they come over after we've had breakfast, done presents and then they come around 10? Then we'll do lunch before seeing my family late afternoon?