Is this fair?

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I'm worried that I'm being a bit tight, and I'm 100% not going to do anything about this, but it's been niggling at me for the past month so need a bit of a reality check. Plus, it really is insignificant.

Basically, I'm one of a friendship group of 4. So me, and friends A, B and C. We met through a mutual hobby about 7 years ago and have grown close.

Friend A moved an hour away last year.

We arranged to all meet up last month at town where Friend A now lives.

Friend B was making her own way there so me and friend C agreed to travel together. I drove to friend C's house, then she drove us from there. She lives about half an hour from me.

I said I'd be happy to share petrol costs. Friend C called and said she used x amount of petrol and what my 50% of that would be. Here's my very trivial AIBU, but why not take into account my petrol in getting to and from hers? I'd understand if she came to pick me up, but I did add an hour onto my journey time by getting myself to hers first.

As I say, really trivial, but would be interested to hear what others think!

Yes, it's fair.

First of all, she'll have paid for wear and tear on her car, insurance, etc.

Also, she can't be expected to calculate your costs, so if you told her you'd "share" costs, she would have assumed a 50:50 split. In future, if you feel you should pay less, the thing to do is say before the trip, "I can contribute X).

This is the same as taking a bus, where the bus company doesn't reimburse you for the cost of getting to the stop.

The way these things should work is for her to come to your house next time or for both of you to make your own way if the current arrangement isn't working.

It’s up to you how you get to and from hers; you could have got a bus or a cab

Not something that should be factored in as it’s your choice to do it op

I think it's fair. She's told you the cost for sharing the car for that part of the journey.

You didn't have to drive an hour out of your way to do that, you could have driven yourself.

That being said, I wouldn't ever take a friend up on their offer of paying towards fuel 😂