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Really low, partner lost his job, adhd recent diagnosis, AMHT referred to crisis team. Help?

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Anxiousmummy786 · 10/10/2023 13:27

Hi, I’ve recently been diagnosed with adhd, always struggled with anxiety and depression, on antidepressants and adhd medication. I’m on Maximum sertraline dose 200mg but doc wants to get the adhd meds right before they give me a different antidepressant. Been feeling really low and anxious and not wanting to leave the house or speak to anyone, off sick from work with mental health being as it is. Hubbys recently lost his job, don’t know how we’re going to pay the bills at the end of the month, first time we went to the benefits people and they said they’ll only be able to give £60 a week maybe. Feel hopeless, desperate, helpless. I love my kids and they’re the only reason I haven’t or won’t ever consider suicide but today I felt low and had a bit of a breakdown and cried my heart out in the graveyard, don’t ask me why there of all places.. but I felt peace there. Anyway, I spoke to my psychiatrist from the hospital who deals with my adhd and anxiety etc and told him how low I was feeling and he said he’s going to speak to the crisis team and they’re going to help but it sounded like social services might be informed too, and that made me super anxious and worried because I love my kids more than anything and I’m a good mum, I never let my anxiety or sadness affect my kids, they know they’re loved and I care for them and love them and do everything a good mum would do, they’re not at risk in any way and I did tell the psychiatrist that but he said the crisis team and others will get involved so that they can help, but I’m terrified they’re going to take my kids away from me! I’ve recently had to sell my car and hubbys car, because we can’t afford it, I sound like a privileged sod but I’ve never felt such financial unstability and this way before where I’ve got to make such sacrifices, so it’s hit me quite a bit, now my kids and I have to walk everywhere and they’ve had a bit of a cold and they’re tired but I can’t afford a taxi or bus, it’s just a horrible time and I feel so rubbish and low and hopeless. I just don’t know what’s going to happen but I don’t want social services to be involved, but my psychiatrist didn’t really give me much reassurance, he just said that the people involved will be there to help get me better. But I said what about my kids, I don’t want them to be taken away, he said let’s focus on getting you better. I’m scared and worried. Any thoughts on the situation or advice would be appreciated? Xx 🥺

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QueenofTheSlipstreamVM · 10/10/2023 13:32

Sounds just like me a good few years ago.. SS won't take your kids away.. they will be there to help you as a family.
Get you support financially/ food/ bills etc.
I had both crisis team and SS out.. they worked together..l was a single parent in middle of a nervous breakdown.. never ever mentioned taking my kids away.. they offered the most amazing help to me as a family...

MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 10/10/2023 13:37

Please dont worry about them taking your kids, it is an incredibly long and detailed process involving a lot of agencies to have kids taken away. They certainly wouldn't do it for a Mum who is struggling with life handing her a shit hand. Social services will just chat with you, and if they can offer additional support they will. Its all about getting you in the best place possible and keeping your family as together as possible.

Anxiousmummy786 · 10/10/2023 17:48

Thank you so much to you both. I’m incredibly grateful. Ok I will just go with the flow and see what help they can give. Thank you. 🤍

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Dacadactyl · 10/10/2023 17:52

Get onto your local council first thing tomorrow. Tell then your situation and ask if they can provide advice.

They may have a Welfare Rights Team who can provide you with advice around benefits. Do you claim PIP? If not, search online for PIP descriptors and see if they apply to you. You can claim this even if you have savings.

Your council may have a Household Support Fund too. Check your eligibility for this on your councils website and ask for an appointment, even if it says you're not eligible.

If you need a food bank parcel, the Council can help with this too.

midlifemelancholy · 10/10/2023 17:53

Sending you love acrosss the internet
I have recently worked out I have adhd and am not on a/ds any more and not signed off sick as self employed but def want the world to stop so I can get off the roundabout for a bit

Cola2023 · 10/10/2023 20:38

I have bipolar II and this sounds like me when I was on SSRIs.

Bipolar II is often misdiagnosed as ADHD. I would ask why you don't meet the criteria for that.

Anxiousmummy786 · 10/10/2023 23:42

I’ve never communicated via chat before, mostly for fear of rejection and low self esteem. Thank you so so much for your support and kindness all, This means the world to me. 🤍

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Wasywasydoodah · 11/10/2023 00:05

Don’t panic. They’re not going to remove your children. Talk to them about help they can provide. Honestly, removing the kids is the last thing they want to do.

Anxiousmummy786 · 11/10/2023 08:39

I was terrified so I called up the adult mental health team and told them I’m not feeling suicidal anymore because I was scared that they might take my kids away. 😖such a bloody idiot!

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