At the ripe old age of 47 I've suddenly stopped wondering "Am I good enough for them?", and finally ask "Are they good enough for me?"
As a result I've dropped a friend who was "take take take". I ditched my efforts to maintain contact an old friend who clearly wants nothing to do with me and was never worth clinging on to in the first place.
The headspace I've freed up from doing this is amazing!
I can't tell you how significant this is for me. I've had decades of low self esteem. I always thought I had to be grateful for any crumb of friendship. I've tried to hang on to friendships way past their expiry date.
This really is the upside of getting older, I finally know where to give my precious time and where to withdraw it.