Being 27

[SpaceXStarship]

Whilst I am a grown woman at 27 years old, I still feel quite young and lost sometimes. I don’t have a great support network. I have a wonderful DP But my family are abusive and dysfunctional so I’ve never had those motherly chats.

So I come to you wise MNetters! Please lay on me all your wisdom that you would give if it was your daughter/niece/etc. Because I’m not feeling very sure of anything right now and I could really use some advice. Thank you

Make sure you always have financial independence.

Pension.

Yoga.

Don't beg for someone's attention. If they're not giving it freely, then change your expectations (or give up on them completely).

Start journaling. Think what you'd want to say at the end of your life & try to achieve things to help make that happen. Identify your passions & make space for yourself & have a hobby or 2.

Practice good financial habits & notice the joy in the small things in life. Take up your space in the world & don't be afraid to stand up for what you believe in. Don't be afraid to change what you belief in & listen to others with respect even if you disagree with them. I wish you well & am sorry you haven't so far had a supportive family. I hope that changes but it will have given you other strengths 💐

Love yourself first.

What a great start @SpaceXStarship

i was you, and similar in family terms.
i wish I’d had a mum who could’ve given me advice.

Mine would be.
Always use contraception.
Start a pension plan asap be even if you put little into it.
Love doesn’t hurt. If it does, leave. Prioritise your happiness.
Education has a value beyond what you imagine, it is worth it. Do it.
Keep a diary even if only twice a year.
Love your body, at this moment now, it is the best it’ll ever be. Same next year and the next.

Don't get fat. Its easier get rid of a few extra lbs now than facing into it at 47.

You are young enough to make big changes to your career, if they is what you want.

You are not young enough to not care about pension, savings etc. Have a long term financial plan. Always have savings and a rainy day fund, even if you have to make small sacrifices now.

Try to enjoy being 27!