Would you go on the motorway with someone who told you they weren't confided driving?

[fivenonrouses]

Just that really
If someone told you they were going to drive on the motorway for the first time and weren't confided. Would you still decide to ride with them or would you give it a pass?

Thank you

Do you mean confident? I don't think I'd be very keen on travelling with them tbh.

So sorry, yes I meant confident
Thank you!!

I'm not sure. It can be dangerous if you're not competent or confident (or have poor concentration). You do need to build up a bit of experience to deal with the various things that can happen.

When I first went on the motorway, I went early on a summer's morning when it was light but almost empty to build up my confidence. I was fine and love motorway driving now.

I draw the line when the driver can't see the big blue signs properly due to insufficiently aided vision, i.e. wouldn't wear glasses for vanity reasons and the contact lenses weren't up to it. This really happened.

It completely depends on context.

A 19 year who has only just past their test and isn't confident because they've literally only tried motorway driving once with their dad or whoever... No I'll probably give it a miss untill they're more experienced.

A 30something year old who is super super cautious about driving, so triple checks every detail when driving while claiming to be not confident, I'd trust them to do all the driving no problems.

Someone claiming to have no confidence in driving to put you off and dodge out of giving you a lift, I'd leave them to it and find a lift from someone else!

Motorways in some ways can be easier to drive compared to other roads.

Traffic isn't coming towards you, it isn't coming out of side streets, the hazards that exist on built up and rural roads don't exist (but yes there are different hazards).

The speed on a motorway can be the same or lower than a rural non-motorway.

The road surfaces tend to be of higher quality and don't curve as much as other roads.

Busy city centre and converging motorways can obviously be much trickier to drive. Merging at 50-70mph can be a challenge even for experienced drivers.

In many cases, I'd be more comfortable as a passenger with a new driver who didn't feel confident about motorway driving, than a new driver who felt confident about driving on a 60mph single carriageway A road.

Pass on anyone driving me that’s not DH. I hate other people’s driving, luckily I love driving.

Thank you everyone!

The driver in question is my husband's cousin. She's 22 and has had her driving license for a year or so.

My husband told her that he's sure she's fine and that we'll ride with her to improve her confidence.
I later told my husband I didn't want to, the fact that I'm pregnant made me even more reluctant.
But I was wondering if I was being a bitch

She's 22 and has had her driving license for a year or so yeah you're well within your rights to find an alternative 😂

Pregnant and a not confident driver would be a no from me

I think it depends on your dh's confidence to offer support and advice.
It also depends on what her driving is like the rest of the time, and how much she has driven on dual carriageways, etc.
I mean, we all had to learn in the first place, and gain our confidence until it becomes easier. If I could help a younger family member do that, then I would, yes.

Funny you say that op, I was always a really confident driver and happy enough passenger until I got pregnant. I got massive anxiety randomly about being in a car accident (I think because I was very aware of where on my body my seat belt was) and then when baby came I was worried that I couldn't control other people's reactions or actions on the road so it felt like the one place I couldn't keep baby safe. Hv said this was actually super common for that reason. So when I had baby and started driving again I'm now the really nervous driver. But I'm also very aware of my surroundings and I wouldn't say I'm unsafe because of it.

Only mentioning because it came up for me while pregnant and was probably my main indicator of PPA when it continued after birth. But if you don't feel good about it, then don't get in the car and arrange another lift. Things like this always need to be on a case by case basis.

Hell no.

I wouldn't be happy to drive someone pregnant and understandably nervous about my driving when I was that inexperienced! I don't drive anyone except my mother, and she doesn't talk in the car. Is DH's cousin used to carrying passengers? That plus not being confident on the motorway sounds like it could be too distracting.

Absolutely not. I am a nervous passenger (aka control freak) so driving at speed with someone not confident would be a no no. Having to do 120 hours supervising an L plater with DD (mandatory where I live in Aus) had me sick to my stomach most days. DH did the motorway component as even the thought of it stressed me out.