You know we're always saying men need to step up?

[CurlewKate]

Well just now, my ds was sitting at the bar of the pub where his girlfriend works, and he took a picture of her. She didn't realise he was taking it and he was being a bit secretive because he didn't want her to see him. Another man came up to him and very non confrontationally asked him why he was taking the picture. He explained and everything was fine. But I am so pleased that the other man did that. Very brave.

Well, it's not a huge deal but does he know for a fact that it's fine. The man had no proof that your son was her boyfriend. He didn't achieve much.

Sorry, I just don't think this an example of stepping up.

I’m guessing the GF confirmed and the OP is trimming the boring details

I like stories like this. Yes men do need to call out other men. My DH does it and it makes me super proud.

It is quite a big deal to challenge someone you think might be being a creep.

Well done to the other man!
Not so for your son. Unless he know she's OK with behaviour like that. I'd hate for anybody to secretly photograph me even if it was a joke.

She knew he was there and it's a lovely picture. I think the whole culture around taking pictures has changed..

Fair enough, but I don't know about the culture comment. I did have exes who thought it was funny taking shit pictures deliberately and putting them on SM. Nope.
Maybe if they'd taken some good ones I'd be less bothered.

For your son to attract attention it must've been quite obvious that he was trying to take a secret photo of a woman though. Everywhere I go is full of people with their phones out snapping everything in sight I don't think I'd have noticed. He could've been taking the background for all the other man knew...

I didn't think I had to say that my son isn't a creep! But my son isn't a creep.

An actual creep I think would be well versed at hiding what they're doing 😂
But I find it funny, your son trying to take a photo and it being so obvious it was of a particular person. Maybe he was trying to hide from her like one of those dramas where the new and inexperienced spy/private detective tries desparately to stay undercover..... only to turn around and come face to face with their mark!

Of course they then end up falling in love.

Cute couples, happy endings.
Not the point of this thread but as there's not much activity on it anyway... for not at least