Friend lied about mum dying to our boss

[FirstTimeMum0]

Hi, just wanting some advice. I’ve recently just found out my friend at work has lied to our boss about her mum dying to get time off work. I’m unsure what to do about this if I am asked? Any advice anyone? Thanks in advance

Get a new friend?

Why would they ask you though? If they do, just say you don’t know her mum and stay out of it. She’ll trip herself up soon enough.

That’s a pretty sick thing for your friend to do.

Why do you expect to be asked about it?

Personally I’d be distancing myself from her and would probably be robust in saying “You should speak to xxx directly”.

I knew someone who did that. Such bad karma!

What is she going to do if/ when her mum really dies??

I'd stay out if it too, if possible, and avoid getting drawn into any conversations about the bereavement and how she's coping.

Do nothing but distance yourself from them incase it comes out and you're tarred by association.

It's a bit of a strange thing to do as she'll forever have to pretend her mum is dead.

I'd stay out of it if I was you. If asked just say something general like ' yes losing a loved one is sad'.

What an absolutely c*nty thing for her to do. I’d distance myself because she sounds like an arse.

So by "work friend" you mean someone you met at work and don't have a relationship outside work?

It's a pretty dodgy thing to have done. If her ethics are so poor, I would be hesitant to associate with her too much. I would be worried in case she did anything else wrong and I looked bad by association.

Hideous thing to do. Why did she do it?

No we do see each other outside of work

She did it to get time off of work. She often rings in ill but she’s really on holiday or just doesn’t want to come into work ect.

And you’re happy being friends with someone who does this?

That's a pretty extreme lie. Not just because of the lie itself, but the fact it requires continuing to lie. I'm assuming her mother is alive, and didn't die at some point in the past? So she'll forever have to keep that up - any mention of weekend plans, Christmas plans etc she'll have to remember not to mention her mum.

What was the reason she didn't want to go to work that day?
How did you find out she lied?
What are you anticipating people will ask you about it? I'd probably only answer vaguely, and say I don't know any details. And I'd distance myself from her generally.

That's someone with real issues

What will she do when her mum really does die?
She is extremely reckless and dishonest I'd back off carefulkynaway from that friendship

Wow. That’s disgusting. Find better people to be friends with.

Does she know you know ? If she doesn’t then don’t confront her on this or when it comes to her being found out she may point out to the management that you knew.

I think you back right off this friendship, she seems both ruthless and reckless and it doesn’t speak well of her character to be able to tell such a lie.

Is she estranged from her mother?

I would distance myself and stay out of it. They'll trip them self up soon and if they are often off they will be on someone's radar.

I've never lied about my mum dying as she died before I was working, but to be honest when I was younger I would always make sure that when I started any new job I always said I had four living grandparents so I could use those days in an emergency.

This

She isn’t your friend and don’t get involved

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That’s an absolutely horrible lie. Distance yourself - I would not want a friend like that in my life.

No nothing, distance yourself from her.

She'll already be on their radar, she'll pay for it eventually.

That’s a pretty drastic lie, especially if she is in contact with her mum. She will trip herself up with that one. I agree with others, just say you don’t know her mum or just say she hasn’t told you so you know nothing about it, then distance yourself from her.