If you had a supportive Mum when you were a teen

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What did your Mum say to make you feel better when you were having friendship angst? I’m struggling to know how to console DD14 who is very much feeling like she has no friends/doesn’t fit in. My own mum was a bit rubbish so if you had a helpful one, can you share what they said to you please?

I had different family members that helped in different ways:
My mum did the following:
Listened
Gave me a hug
I can't remember much else
My step dad:
Told me that nobody is perfect and that you really have to put the work in over the years. He was very much to the point and unemotional about things but often correct and I was happy for the advice.
My grandma:
Listened (a lot)
Passed the tissues if I was crying
Distracted me with little snacks or a film/ trip somewhere nice

My family didn't really talk things out as such. I tend to listen to my daughter and we talk and put it into perspective, problem solve and try to remove the emotion and see why people behave the way they do. I'm always there for a hug too if needed. Listening is important.

I don't yet have teens and had a crap upbringing but some advice I was given is to get them hobbies outside of the school/usual friend group. So they have different sets of friends. School is hideous imo and its just a case of trying to get through it, girls can be nasty. It's tough for teens. What about you taking her out for afternoon tea or something and talking to her about any potential clubs she could attend?