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Would you "warn" this friend

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Softnatural · 04/10/2023 20:23

I had a personal crisis a couple of years ago. Most people were very supportive but there are a couple of women who made a big thing of being "there" for me, and basically used it as a way to get all the gossip and then embellished it and passed it on.

A mutual friend is going through a nasty divorce, much in need of a supportive ear and I can see these women going out of their way to become close to her.

In both cases, they're people we know but not especially close friends, until they targeted us when feeling in need of friends iyswim.

Anyway, I'm generally a keep out of others' business type, but the behaviour I'm seeing from them now is exactly what they did to me.

Should I say anything? How would you receive it if I did?

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LakeTiticaca · 04/10/2023 20:34

Tell her and let her make her own mind up about it

Pottomous2 · 04/10/2023 20:35

Advise her what you went through and she can make her mind up.

bombastix · 04/10/2023 20:38

Oh yes, the vampires. You should warn her.

ManchesterLu · 04/10/2023 20:50

Yeah, I honestly would warn her, as it sounds like you could help her to avoid a lot of hurt by being honest with her.

Softnatural · 04/10/2023 20:58

I don't know, she's probably feeling that they're some of the only people on her side ATM

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Riverlee · 04/10/2023 21:01

Maybe say something along the lines that you’ve noticed like to particularly befriend people who are in trouble, and seem to enjoy the drama.

Cowlover89 · 04/10/2023 21:07

Definitely tell her

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