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Keepingstrong77 · 04/10/2023 20:16

I'm on a support course for parents of children who have emotional disregulation.

One of the things they spoke about today was about support systems. I realised I don't actually have any. I am the support system within the family.

I have my youngest grandson 3 times a week. So my Dd can go to the gum. I lnlw that sounds silly . But she has a personality disorder. I think the gym helps her mentally.

Also her older son has special needs which she often can't cope with so he often up at my house.

Also my house is the allocated safe place for dd and her children to come under a DV safety plan.

Also DD is doing NVR course with I do with her because we both need to be on the same page regarding her son.

Then of course I have my son who has the emotional disregulation. Which is very challenging and hard.

I then have to make sure my other children are OK as well. My younger children are quite easy really.

This is not a post to try and fix things . I'm really just saying things out loud. And reflecting a bit. Situation is complicated. I'm not looking for answers

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Keepingstrong77 · 04/10/2023 21:15

Sorry if my op does not make much sense. I probably should have written it at a better time.

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Riverlee · 04/10/2023 21:18

you sound like a lovely person, looking out for your family. I hope you remember to look after yourself.

NinaGeiger · 04/10/2023 21:45

I just wanted to say I can relate a bit, completely different situation. I'm a therapist and sometimes feel like although I have loads of friends, I'm not sure who I could phone in a crisis.
Been feeling this more recently as I am really ill and need help with my toddler when husband is working, but when I've asked for help, everyone is busy. I feel like if roles were reversed, I'd cancel my plans if a friend had an urgent need.

Just wanted to empathise.

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Keepingstrong77 · 04/10/2023 22:08

NinaGeiger · 04/10/2023 21:45

I just wanted to say I can relate a bit, completely different situation. I'm a therapist and sometimes feel like although I have loads of friends, I'm not sure who I could phone in a crisis.
Been feeling this more recently as I am really ill and need help with my toddler when husband is working, but when I've asked for help, everyone is busy. I feel like if roles were reversed, I'd cancel my plans if a friend had an urgent need.

Just wanted to empathise.

I'm sorry your ill and struggling I think it can feel pretty one sided can't it. I do think its strange when people can't see how much your giving. I hope things change for you soon 💐

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Keepingstrong77 · 05/10/2023 09:40

Riverlee · 04/10/2023 21:18

you sound like a lovely person, looking out for your family. I hope you remember to look after yourself.

No choice really 😬 but thank you

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