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Grace at meal times

67 replies

Inmy50s · 04/10/2023 19:50

Do you/your family ever say Grace?

We do for Sunday lunch and Christmas lunch.

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ManchesterLu · 04/10/2023 20:49

NotFastButFurious · 04/10/2023 19:51

No, never, the first time I came across grace (and this is with a grandma who never missed going to mass!) was at brownie pack holiday.

Yeah, Brownie Camp was the only place I ever said Grace, too.

ZolaBudd · 04/10/2023 20:49

He just didn’t believe in that type of Christianity I suppose. When he died, I think he totally stopped believing in God.

well I know he had. Hard to maintain for 80 years when it’s such a pile of crap

Redribbontable · 04/10/2023 20:50

I was forced to at school and by a relative who was an evangelical pastor. Woe betide anyone who so much as laid a finger on the food or even their fork before his rambling prayers were done. Funny really, my aged auntie's food was never quite served hot as she spent a lot of time fannying about when bringing it to the table so by the time it was finished everything was stone cold.

DC say the school prayer at lunch times. We don't at home as I am a satanist.

Libertass · 04/10/2023 20:50

No, because we are not religious at all. Our house is a god-free zone.

MrsTerryPratchett · 04/10/2023 20:51

Atheist family.

Only time we hear or say it is Burns Night. The Selkirk Grace. Some hae meat and canna eat, And some wad eat that want it; But we hae meat, and we can eat, Sae let the Lord be thankit.

Scaraben · 04/10/2023 20:53

Only on Burns night!

Toddlerteaplease · 04/10/2023 20:54

No, we never ever said it. And was brought up as a practicing Anglican. Now catholic occasionally go to places where its said. My priest friend will occasionally say it. But usually forgets.

MrsTerryPratchett · 04/10/2023 20:55

Scaraben · 04/10/2023 20:53

Only on Burns night!

Great minds!

IvySquirrel · 04/10/2023 20:56

Both me and DH were brought up Christian and still are but didn't say grace except at school. I'm not sure why. Our kids are young adults now but we always said grace for Sunday lunch when they were growing up.
Now we only say it when we have Christian friends round and at church events. So fairly often but not every day.

Guiltyfeethavegotnorhythm0 · 04/10/2023 20:56

Never , although my husbands granny was like this - all fire and brimstone . Never ate at her house ever .

NotFastButFurious · 04/10/2023 20:58

Oh yeah, I don’t even really think of the burns night Selkirk grace as a “grace” if that makes sense! Maybe because it’s not religious as such.

Sconehenge · 04/10/2023 20:58

toastofthetown · 04/10/2023 19:52

The last time I said Grace I was nine years old at school. For what we are about to receive may the Lord make us truly thankful.

DH looked at me like I was bonkers when I said we had to chant that before lunch every day. I hated my school lunches, so years of daily prayer didn’t work. I still wouldn’t be truly thankful for a sandwich.

I’ve always found the “may the lord make us truly thankful” to be such an ominous sounding wish.

I prefer to go in already as grateful as I can be and say a simple prayer of gratitude for the meal.

SilasMarnerJekyll · 04/10/2023 21:02

Only at Christmas and Easter if my brother is in attendance, he likes the tradition of grace.

ActDottie · 04/10/2023 21:04

Yep we all jokingly say “grace” out loud and tuck into our food

MrsTerryPratchett · 04/10/2023 21:04

NotFastButFurious · 04/10/2023 20:58

Oh yeah, I don’t even really think of the burns night Selkirk grace as a “grace” if that makes sense! Maybe because it’s not religious as such.

I like that it's about empathy and need. It does mention God though! Grin

Thesearmsofmine · 04/10/2023 21:08

Never.
I remember being so confused as a kid going to a friends house where they did it every night.

SharonEllis · 04/10/2023 21:08

No. I dislike it when others insist on it - except in their own home of course.

DinnaeFashYersel · 04/10/2023 21:11

The only time come across grace is at Burns Suppers when the Selkirk Grace is recited.

Some hae meat and canna eat,
And some wad eat that want it,
But we hae meat and we can eat,
Sae let the Lord be Thankit!

At home, even though DH and the kids are catholics it's not something we'd consider.

SouthLondonMum22 · 04/10/2023 21:11

No. Atheist household.

purpleme12 · 04/10/2023 21:12

No
I was brought up Christian. But no we never did this

Fleabane · 04/10/2023 21:14

No. I don't believe and I dislike it when others force their belief system on me.

HRTQueen · 04/10/2023 21:24

My dad always does regardless of where we are

I just keep my head down as this makes him happy that I show respect, he is very upset his children are non believers (well I’m agnostic)

Mariposista · 04/10/2023 21:27

My Grandad was a vicar. He would say 'Good food, good meat, Good Lord, Let's eat!'

OTM1982 · 04/10/2023 21:27

No, we thank who ever has cooked I it and give thanks to hello fresh for delivering it!