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Separate beds

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BlackKnightinYellowWellies · 03/10/2023 21:55

We were talking about getting a new king size bed, but are now considering getting two singles for our bedroom. They would fit our awkward shaped room better and I just think we would both sleep better.
Has anyone tried it? Dh and I are pretty happy together, but he mostly sleeps on the sofa bed because he is so restless and doesn't want to disturb me.
I like the idea of my own cosy bed, but am not 100%.

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Hexeex · 03/10/2023 21:59

Yes go for it, it's brilliant! We have been sleeping in separate beds for almost 4 years now and I can't tell you how beneficial it is. No one's body heat making you too hot, no one's fidgeting getting on your nerves and waking you up, no one pulling the covers or taking up too much space. It's done wonders for my sleep. This way we both get to wake up in the morning feeling refreshed and happy and full of energy. We went away for the weekend last week and they only had double rooms left. I hardly got a wink of sleep I can't believe we ever slept like that in the beginning

Notcookie · 03/10/2023 22:02

Separate rooms is even better! Has helped our marriage as I was ready to smother him with a pillow for his snoring and he was so tired after I woke him up to turn him on his side all night long. Still in a very loving marriage after 20 years. I don't think it's the stigma that it used to be. A lot of people do it but don't talk about it. DH and I were not designed to share a bed/room!

youkiddingme · 03/10/2023 22:11

Separate beds an bedrooms for us for the last 10 years, we've been married nearly 40. Best thing we ever decided.

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Mindymomo · 03/10/2023 22:15

My in-laws had 2 single beds with single bedding, then they pushed them together. My DH and I have a super king size bed, we can move as much as we like without disturbing one another.

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BlackKnightinYellowWellies · 03/10/2023 22:23

We've talked about it before, but circumstances have changed and separate rooms or a bigger bed are no longer options.
Most of the single beds I am looking at appear to be for children, can anyone recommend nice ones that aren't too short or flimsy for adults?

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Redwinestillfine · 03/10/2023 22:27

If it appeals then you can trial it. Single beds are tiny though for one person. Wouldn't one of you want a double or queen size for not sleeping in?

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BlackKnightinYellowWellies · 03/10/2023 22:34

There's just no room for bigger beds. (Adult child has returned)

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AutumnFroglets · 03/10/2023 22:43

If he's restless then a bigger bed won't help. He'll still be bouncing you around. You need to work out whether he finds the sofabed comfortable and big enough or is the problem having to put it away each morning?

My DH works nights so he sleeps in a single in the spare room. He's tall and ummmm...wide, but because he doesn't move in his sleep a single is fine. I'm restless and can fall out of a double quite easily Blush

Edit: Have a look at the Dreams website. A single is 3ft wide, small double is 4ft, a normal double is 4ft6 but all over 6ft in length. Depending on your room maybe two small doubles ?

Jeannie88 · 03/10/2023 23:19

No need to justify it at all, sounds like the perfect solution! You're together in the same room but have your own bed space, what's not to like? Xx

CurlyhairedAssassin · 03/10/2023 23:24

Notcookie · 03/10/2023 22:02

Separate rooms is even better! Has helped our marriage as I was ready to smother him with a pillow for his snoring and he was so tired after I woke him up to turn him on his side all night long. Still in a very loving marriage after 20 years. I don't think it's the stigma that it used to be. A lot of people do it but don't talk about it. DH and I were not designed to share a bed/room!

Since our eldest went to uni last year I've started sleeping in the bed in his room. DH's snoring is horrendous and when I sleep with him in our bed I just get no sleep. I can still hear it through the walls now but it's obviously not as loud so doesn't disturb me the same. His snoring would give me weird dreams too so then I'd wake him up shouting out when dreaming!

I love my own space and peace and quiet now.

Custardpudding · 03/10/2023 23:29

We went from a double to a king and I love the extra room!

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BlackKnightinYellowWellies · 04/10/2023 08:36

Well I think we're going to go for it. It's not sustainable for dh to sleep down stairs all the time, especially as we haven't got a spare room for guests anymore.

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gotomomo · 04/10/2023 08:44

King size and separate duvets work for some?

KohlaParasaurus · 04/10/2023 09:46

A single bed each in a bedroom seems a much better choice than one of you regularly sleeping on a sofa bed.

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