Does anyone else agree that you become invisible when fat?

[bedorbrowse]

I've got from a curvy with a nice shape size 10/12 to a 16 sometimes 18 in just 9 months.

I've noticed that men either act as if I'm invisible or they get irritated at me very quickly?

Let me explain myself a bit better - an example would be accidentally being in the way in a shop or supermarket etc, whereas before it would all be 'oh haha, no worries' and all smiles and direct eye contact, it's now a more irritated response

Or for example when a place is busy and you say excuse me, I've noticed I seemed to be ignored...

My mum says I'm very right and she experienced the same change of reaction from men when she went from a size 10 to a size 22 sadly due to a surgery issue. She says the same things happen as you get older toon

18 months ago I went for drinks with my SIL (I am 10 years her junior), and the partners of her friends were all very nice to me, really engaged in coversation and had a 'twinkle' in their eyes

This time they were a bit 'meh' at my presence and were a bit flat for conversation - exact same venue and set of circumstances

I know there are loads of variables here and people might say it's in my head

But I don't really care either way and I have definitely noticed it! It isn't me being anxious, I really don't care much for the attention of random men but it is interesting

Bump

No you are right. You become completely invisible.

I have been slim ish to very fat.
Yes, men obviously fancied me more when I was slimmer however I have never felt invisible!
I am a confident person whether or not I have weight on me or not. I take care of my hair and makeup and scrub up quite well for a night out even if I do say so myself.
I always imagine these 'invisible' women to be shrinking violets that are trapped in a self fulfilling prophecy, the less 'seen' they feel the more they shrink away and on it goes.

There is definitely a certain type of man who feels irritated or even angry with fat women.
I've been on the receiving end of this several times - been shouted at in the street for being fat.
I'd rather be ignored obviously!

@PatchouliOilandRoses I am very into skincare, nice clothes and stuff. I think facially I still look beautiful. Although my features are not as great anymore as they aren't well defined now

But I have to say, although I feel confident, I have seen a change in how men look and react to me, 100%

Lovely to hear this isn't the case for you though, sincerely! It's positive

Definitely notice a change and it's not nice is it, women do it too.
But the men thing, just shows they are being nice because they view you as a potential sex partner. Not all men of course
I never felt invisible when big though, still got unwanted attention sadly

I am definitely not saying men are as equally attracted to me in my fat phases as they are when I'm slimmer. I would have to be an idiot not to notice that! I got a job a few years ago purely because the manager fancied me (he admitted it) that I wouldn't get now.
I don't feel that equates to invisibility though. I am 5'10 and currently about 4' wide😂 I stand tall and expect my place in the space around me. Men do hold doors for me and apart from the 'twinkly eyes' you mentioned that I don't see so often anymore I really don't notice any particular difference in how I'm treated.

Yes, absolutely. It has its advantages.

I was a size 8 pre pregnancy and kids 3 years ago and am now a size 16. I definitely don't get checked out now as I maybe was back then but I don't feel invisible. I've found people are still nice to me and helpful, despite me looking like a bag of shine these days and being lucky if I get out the house without baby sick on my goody or in my hair.