Opinions please on age gap relationship

[Bertha1924]

i would really appreciate your opinions please as I really don’t know whether to carry on with this very recent relationship. I know I shouldn’t really take any notice of what other people think but I don’t want to come across as a stupid older woman.

We met at the local pub while I was there with a friend and got chatting and swapped numbers. He text me a few days later and it’s gone from there. He’s been divorced for around 7 years and he has had a couple of brief relationships since then. I’ve.been on my own for around 10 years.

We get on extremely well sharing an Interest in music and books and have started a sexual relationship which has been great. He is very gentle and understanding.

BUT he is only 52 approaching 53 and I am 66. People have said in the past that I’m not to bad for my age.

My daughter however thinks it’s strange that I am attracted to someone only 8 years older than her and that bothers me.

Could this relationship work with almost a 14 year age difference ?

9 years here, myself f 40’s older. It works for now. Yes there are differences. But we are alike in many ways. I’m divorced he is technically married to his job. No one has ever asked about an age difference. I tell myself they can’t see it! I had a few comments from people I knew. I think you need to just enjoy it. Neither of you are young which is when it is more obvious I think. See what happens and go from there. The key is to not care what others think.

I cannot follow all that, most of it, I think? So, a women is dating a guy the age of her father, so about twenty years her senior? That he has dementia now. Also, that her own dad has dementia, and that she cares for them both. Likely easier to do this when one is middle aged rather than old, don`t you think??? It could finish off an old person. Likely there are two pots of gold at the end of it just waiting for her. All of my hospital visits since knowing my younger friend have either been concerned with her health, or otherwise that of her children. There is a small group of the population that never actually enters old age, they have the immune system of twenty somethings in their eighties, they are on no medication, have nothing go wrong with them, and generally die in their sleep. They never become a burden to anybody!. This is why I have made reference to "real age" in a previous post.

In my opinion it is only healthily normal to be attracted to the attractive, if he is attractive surely it should only be considered strange if you were not to consider him such? As for wanting a relationship with him, this is a different area entirely. One thing to consider here might be "real age", it could even be that you are actually younger than him??? I am seventy, my best female friend, twenty five, and it is working far better than any of her relationships to date, and they have been with members of her own peer group. What helps us now is that she has quit relationships, but it likely also helps that I am very slow to age.