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What are your friendship group doing with their lives?

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hollistictreats · 01/10/2023 17:08

I find it interesting reading on here about different groups of people and how vastly different my life is compared to someone my age, especially because of not having children.

so, what is going on with your friendship circle? Are they married, kids, similar people, from school / work / kids groups and do you notice a difference?

I am late twenties, married to DH with two dogs. My friendship group ranges from 28-32 y/o. No one in my friendship group has children. Everyone is a working professional - lawyers, accountants, teachers. I am the only married one. One is in a LTR. The rest are single and have had a few relationships, one was engaged, but that’s it. My friends are all from different places in my life, a few school, uni, first grad job. On paper, everyone looks like they have their shit together. Inside, we all have different mental health issues (OCD, ADHD, GAD, depression, anxiety). I think at one point, each of us has taken anti depressants. one friend had a brain tumour (she’s now fine!) and something I realise is that we are all size 6-10, I am the biggest at a size 10 (sometimes 8). Ethnically we are all very different and could create our own model UN. We are all British born, though. Most of us are from the south but a few are from up north (inc DH). Everyone now lives in or around London.

I have heard and do believe that people with mental health issues and neurodivergence attract each other, which really explains all my friends. I am the most stable friend on the outside, inside I would say I feel the least stable.

so how are your friendship group? Are you similar?

this is meant to be light hearted.

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Embarrassednamechangeadoddle · 01/10/2023 18:41

I really believe ND people attract each other or rather settle with each other because they just get eachother. I have A new group I spend weekend away with. Always hated women’s weekends away. Now I love it. Many of my new group of ND and so accepting and easy going (in the sense they don’t worry if someone has some time alone, makes an odd comment etc). I realise I haven’t been disliking women’s groups I’ve just been with the wrong people!!

Lemonpledge · 01/10/2023 18:45

What is this group? Not specifically, I don't want to crash it, but can you tell me vaguely? A ND group where it's ok to spend time alone and you're forgiven for odd comments sounds wonderful.

Most of my group (30s) are married with children, but some are married with no children, in LTR, or single. None of us having to worry about caring for elderly parents yet.

Laurelai · 01/10/2023 18:46

Embarrassednamechangeadoddle · 01/10/2023 18:41

I really believe ND people attract each other or rather settle with each other because they just get eachother. I have A new group I spend weekend away with. Always hated women’s weekends away. Now I love it. Many of my new group of ND and so accepting and easy going (in the sense they don’t worry if someone has some time alone, makes an odd comment etc). I realise I haven’t been disliking women’s groups I’ve just been with the wrong people!!

I love this and am really pleased for you!

IReallyLikeYouButIWantToSeeHowThingsGoWithMark · 01/10/2023 18:50

I am 50 and my immediate close friendship group is 39-83. One is with a partner, nurse, toddler girl. Me- married 2 DCs aged 14 and 12 and work full time. DH works part time. Both professionals. Rest mostly have adult children all retired. Two child-free and both retired though one runs a successful livery and one volunteers. All own our own homes with mortgages or paid off I assume.

We are very similar thinking about it.

MichaelAndEagle · 01/10/2023 19:05

4 of us aged 40 - 43.
One in a relationship but not married or living together, no kids.
One married, 3 kids, all 3 are ND and my friend will probably never be able to work because of it.
One married, 2 kids, her DH is a bit of a twat.
I'm divorced, 2 kids, probably earn the most at 40k per year.

We are uni friends and all live in or near that same uni city.
We're all homeowners, I don't think any of us are near mortgage pay off dates yet.

mondaytosunday · 01/10/2023 19:10

Out of my six closet friends (all 50-60ish)):
Me: widow, no partner, one 20 year old working (lives on his own), 18 year old doing year long course applying to uni this year;
Friend 1: married, self employed full time with 24 in marines, 20 in apprenticeship and 18 in college.
Friend 2: married, SAHM, one son 34 working, married with a kid, 20 year old at home working.
Friend 3: married, works full time, 20 at uni
Friend 4: married, SAHM, 21 year old uni.
Friend 5: married, SAHM, 24 year old working, 21 year old at uni.
Friend 6: divorcing, SAHM, 25 year old working part time living in sheltered housing for adults with MH issues, 22 year old in the army, 21 year old at uni.

mondaytosunday · 01/10/2023 19:12

Totally different education levels, from four different countries, different affluence but all had kids at private bar one family.

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