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How much is too much noise?

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AvonCallingBarksdale · 01/10/2023 15:55

Wasn’t sure where to post to putting her for traffic.
I really struggle with noises/smells/sensory overload. I suspect I’d be diagnosed with ADHD if I went down that road (I think that’s relevant)
As I get older I’m finding it increasingly hard to cope with noises out of my control - as in I get v anxious/stressed/panicky. Our ndn have a dog who is v barky at periodic times in the day. We’re not attached so it’s when the dog goes in the garden. Barking lasts a couple of mins tops each time. Sometimes not at all during the day then quite a bit early evening. It’s not consistent but it’s by no means constant. I find it really hard to cope with and it sets me on edge. What I seem to have lost sight of though is whether this is just a normal “side effect” of having neighbours.
I guess wherever you live you may encounter noises you don’t want but I suppose my question is whether people with more robust MH just get on with it??
Please don’t tell me I sound like a nightmare - I’m already aware I struggle with stuff that others don’t and I’m not trying to be a pain. I’d rather not jump out of my skin every time there’s a random noise or smell 😬

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AThickLayerOfLard · 01/10/2023 16:05

As I get older peri, then menopause, made smells, noise and crowds impossible to deal with so you have my sympathy. It is a total sensory overload.
We have a barking dog next door, for the first year I wasn’t too fussed but DH took to saying ‘that bloody dog again’ every time it yapped, so now all I do is notice it! It sets me on edge too. I’m amazed other neighbours haven’t complained, especially the people attached to them.
I remind myself that it’s not constant. I think to be a noise nuisance the duration is a factor, and a duration of a couple of minutes isn’t very long-thankfully!

AvonCallingBarksdale · 01/10/2023 16:11

Thanks for responding - I’ve definitely got worse as I’ve got older and menopausal anxiety is a big thing even with HRT. Anyway… do you have any tips to manage it??

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PowerVandhana1986 · 01/10/2023 16:13

Good daay.

DelilahBucket · 01/10/2023 16:16

Our neighbour was still thundering around their house with the dog going mental at midnight last night. Drives me mad, their dog barks constantly inside and outside. When they go out and leave him he just howls and scratches the floor. It really grates on me, some days more than others. It does ruin my enjoyment of my home though. You have my sympathies OP. I think once a noise starts to annoy you, you become more attuned to it.

AvonCallingBarksdale · 01/10/2023 16:25

@@DelilahBucket that sounds like a real pain. You’re right too once I tune in I find it hard to zone out. I’ve totally lost sight of what is “normal” neighbour noise and I know from threads on here that sometimes that’s awful for people 😔

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AvonCallingBarksdale · 01/10/2023 16:50

I wonder if the UK has become a noisier/less considerate place too?
I also wondered about triple glazing and whether that’s worth it.

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