Next doors parcels cf?

[Bluebirthdaycard]

I've taken quite a lot of next doors parcels over the years on and off but a lot of deliveries were getting placed in their storage bin which she told me she asked them to do. A few weeks ago they got a new storage bin but with less room. I got a message off her 3 weeks ago saying to quote "hi are you number 3 or 4 for any future deliveries if we're out". That was it, so basically not even asking and me, like a mug, said it was ok if I was in as im having to go out and take and collect my Ds from the train station 8 miles away. So there's been a parcel every week since, including the day she messaged, surprise! But what really ticked me off was there was a delivery on Fri (she doesn't work on Fridays) but she buggered off out and naturally he knocked here so I refused to answer the door. I work 4am to 8am weds to sat and get up at 2.40am and she's aware of this and in-between running around after Ds college lifts I might like to have a nap but it's not great thinking the doors going to go at any moment. Whether this is cf or not, I don't want to do this anymore but does anyone have any advice on how to say this without causing bad feeling?

Just stick a note on your door/window saying no postal, parcel deliveries or any other deliveries or enquiries accepted for no xyz.

That’s what I’ve done. Works extremely well. No more cf! Although cf neighbour was extremely upset and said I was being elitist, rude and not caring that they had just had a baby and they felt unwanted !!!!!

I refuse parcels for my neighbour. The delivery people soon learn not to waste their time.

The problem is she's put my name and number as a go to. I wouldn't mind but after being really annoyed yesterday, I looked up where the companies nearest collection service is and it's the post office literally 2 min drive in the village that's open until 5pm and she's always home by that time.

Oh dear, this is the problem I don't want a fall out with them.

I refuse parcels for neighbours. If In doubt, I yell out window, 'What number is it for?" And if it's not for me, I don't engage any further.
After a week or so of being rebuffed, the regular Amazon etc delivery men got the message and stopped knocking. Hasn't caused any bad feeling. Or if it has, I don't know and don't care!

Either just refuse all the parcels and the delivery people will get the message (they won’t know you have refused btw, you could have just been out) and turn off your doorbell when napping if you can? (If it’s a plug in one). Or just tell her that it’s a problem with you working nights and you can’t do it as you may be sleeping - if she has a problem with that I wouldn’t care at all about falling out with her!

Ive seen people add a note to their door that says something like "please don't knock or ring the bell - shift worker is asleep." Delivery drivers might just stop bothering you if you stick it on your door during the day or days when you want to sleep.

The trouble with just refusing a parcel and hoping the delivery company get the message - some companies have multiple drivers for that round, so they don’t ‘learn.’ Plus the op (or anyone) has already been disturbed from a nap etc.
A note saying you are ‘out’ or a shift worker can send the wrong signals to the wrong type of person. Not something anyone would want.

@Bluebirthdaycard just put a note refusing parcels for others. Tough if they get upset, they didn’t exactly ask if you were ok with it - so not bothered about your feelings.

It’s very simple you text her back and say really sorry but I can’t take your parcels any more as it’s affecting my work as I am a shift worker and need to sleep. I am sure you understand so please remove my details immediately thanks

then stick a note on your door saying unless the parcel is for this address please don’t knock, take it back to your depot and re deliver

Yes, I think I might have to say it's going to affect my naps or get a job in the day. Trouble is she's a bit of a princess/Polly popular so will probably turn others against me if I dare to spoil her entitledness.

Thanks for your comment

Think this is the best course of action, thank you

I'm the person who takes in parcels for all my neighbours. I've currently got one in hallway and had a second one earlier. Absolutely don't mind at all for the most part but one neighbour never collects. He expects us to take it round when he gets home. It's like a stand off these days.
At Christmas we often have piles and again I don't mind but I'm so over our cf ndn.
I figure that as I work part time and lates I'd rather help out and this in turn meant that when my washing machine died three of the neighbours took in washing for me for a week!!
The note in the window seems like a good idea to me.

Tbh I'm also sitting here thinking what if we needed a favour one day? If this goes tits up and we fall out, then there's that to think about as well. I think it was the fact on Friday when she must've got a message to say a parcels coming but went out anyway and expected me to deal with it that's turned me. I remember a few years back when we met up outside and she was on her way out and said "oh there might be a couple of parcels delivered today", but that's ok she can go about her day as muggins is here. Clearly her time is far more important than mine. To add insult to injury she wouldn't give me the time of day if we didn't happen to be living next door to each other.

@Bluebirthdaycard I would bet good money on the fact she will never return the favour.
It’s clearly annoying you, so just say no and meant it. She’ll get the message and move on to someone else to annoy, or learn to deal with her own parcels- there are lots of options these days.