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He's being let out of prison

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Andrepeat26 · 30/09/2023 10:04

Dd ex is being let out of prison next week . He originally got given 9 months for the attack on her. Was meant to do 4 months . But in all he's ended up doing 3 years. With small amounts of time out of prison . 2/3 weeks here and there. He keeps getting sent back. Due to breaking restraining orders, doing stupid things regarding his conditions etc.

He is classed as a heigh risk offender. He plays mind games as well telling professionals he knows where DD is when he does not. That the causes professionals to dance for him. That then has a bad effect on dd because they the become protective she cant leave the house on her own , and has to get cabs everywhere. Alarms/cameras in her house and mine. Last time she had to stay with me for a month until he was caught again.

I know this tome round he's been making threats to professionals as well . I don't know what effect that will have.

Dd has not been able to get on with her life for 3 years . Having professionals involved for a long period of time is not easy. All based on a stupid narc.

I have never wished anyone dead before but....

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Andrepeat26 · 30/09/2023 13:01

MadeForThis · 30/09/2023 12:58

He sounds very vindictive and clever. He is using the agencies to terrorise your dd as he can't access her.

Yep and it works.

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Andrepeat26 · 30/09/2023 13:09

DentalWoes · 30/09/2023 12:37

I've been through this too, in your DD position. About 7 years in he used a PI to stalk me instead of doing it himself so the police couldn't do anything. It's been a few years now and I'm still hypervigilant and can't visit family or friends. I miss my town and everything I knew, I'm not sure I'll ever feel safe or 'move on' fully as PTSD has lingering physical and cognitive effects. He's still in my nightmares but I've not had any interaction from him or other agencies for a few years. (It is so hard having agencies in your life all the time, it's possibly one of the worst bits aside from the isolating social impact).

I do try to make the best of my life, although it's not what I expected. I've been able to parent, renovate a home, and enjoy my pets and garden, and got a first-class degree whilst recovering. I don't know if that offers any hope. I'm glad she has you, I found it very challenging without family support (most of them died during the 7 years of hell). I wish you both feelings of safety and comfort.

I'm so sorry for what you have been through. Yes it's definitely hard having professionals involved for a long time. They are there ti support/help. But its actually very stressful. And in the mean time bhes smiling at his game of puppets.

It's Been so hard for you. But you have definitely achieved alot for (you) during that time. Its not easy but keep strong . You have done great 💐

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WasThereAnotherTroyforHertoBurn · 30/09/2023 13:12

Is this related to the army thread ?

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Andrepeat26 · 30/09/2023 13:19

WasThereAnotherTroyforHertoBurn · 30/09/2023 13:12

Is this related to the army thread ?

No. Don't know anything about an army thread

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Coyoacan · 30/09/2023 13:43

Many, many years ago this happened to my sister. She emigrated.

Timeforchangeithink · 30/09/2023 13:49

Andrepeat26 · 30/09/2023 11:05

People often think it's that simple . But it's not.

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Sadly sounds like in your DD situation this is the only option and needs to be made to work.

Hungrycaterpillarsmummy · 30/09/2023 13:56

Andrepeat26 · 30/09/2023 10:42

Thank you for your reply. I have only skimmed it as it feelscalot to take in. But I will reread it. And reokt properly on a bit.

But for now in a nut shell . He does not know where she is
Although he says to professionals he does. He says it for a reaction. Which he gets which then effects DD. Abd he's probably having a little giggle to himself.

Lots of things are in place/being put in place.

Social media wise she does lock it down. But with social media there's boften away it's not as simple as block . And if he contacts her in anyway fake names /profiles etc that will be breaking restraining order

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Sorry but this is nonsense. It is super easy to block and not show your profile so that's like a basic thing to do.

But let's say there's still ways around it then the simple and most obvious thing would be to delete all social media.

Anyway, if I was her I would be moving.

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Andrepeat26 · 30/09/2023 13:57

Timeforchangeithink · 30/09/2023 13:49

Sadly sounds like in your DD situation this is the only option and needs to be made to work.

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Shes not I'm the position to do that . Not everyone can just leave the country

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Andrepeat26 · 30/09/2023 13:59

Hungrycaterpillarsmummy · 30/09/2023 13:56

Sorry but this is nonsense. It is super easy to block and not show your profile so that's like a basic thing to do.

But let's say there's still ways around it then the simple and most obvious thing would be to delete all social media.

Anyway, if I was her I would be moving.

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I'm not going to argue with you . Really no point. Things are not as simple as people think. Its very easy to say I would do this I would do that .

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Andrepeat26 · 30/09/2023 16:43

BMW6 · 30/09/2023 10:15

No-one could possibly blame you OP. Your poor dd.

Honestly really do wish it. Or that he got a mega long time in prison. At this rate he will move on to some other female and it will be the same cycle.

People often think once you leave life gets better in some respects yes of course it does. But 3 years later and dd is still suffering the after effects.

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