Professionals that judge/social services

[Anonymous276]

Try and give brief background. Child on CIN plan due to domestic violence. Been no contact for a long time. But child on CIN plan. Due to the ex being a heigh risk offender who keeps breaking restraining border over and over. He's in and out of prison due to this.

So when take a child to the hospital due to illness. It shows on the system that social services are involved. That's totally fine totally get that. What I don't get is the judgement towards mum. ( Not me) in this case made mum feel like a bit of shit on the bottom of her shoe. A member of staff reported mum to social worker saying she was not attending to the child. When mum questioned the social worker, over what had Been reported and said when it was. Mum then said no one came in the room to us at all, no one checked on us all night. so how can member of staff say that ? She has a good relationship with social worker. So it turned out OK

. Social worker said sadly even professionals judge. And then people wounder why mums are scared to seek help icer domestic violence.

Totally get they have to be careful and things have to check. But why say something that's not true . That's just awful .

Yes definitely and it's really unfair, because the parent who is no harm to the child (and actually has done the opposite if leaving domestic violence to keep child safe) gets tarred with the same brush as a criminal.

Yes exactly. I think there should be a short note such as mum not a risk. Theh still need to contact social worker which is fine.

Oh that's awful.
I think some (many?) professionals have little idea about the range of reasons social workers might be involved and just make an assumption that social worker = terrible parent. And everything that parent then does is seem through that lens. I imagine if a parent had turned up minus SW involvement then no issue would have been raised at all. It's a bit like confirmation bias I suppose.
Also some people are really bloody judgemental and really shouldn't be working in caring roles. BUT they have chosen caring professions so they can look down on people and feel worthy/better than others. (Experience: a ) used to be a social worker so saw this first hand b) was treated like shit when I was pregnant because I took medication for pre existing health conditions and I was anxious).

Its not nice at all. It should not but it could stop people seeking help when they need it.

You would think there would be some sort of training .

I see both sides of this. The number of families with SW involvement in the scenario you describe is tiny. Naturally we draw conclusions from the most common occurrences around us.
OTOH this professional sounds over zealous.

That's why I think there be should be notes on the system . Just very brief such as mum is not a risk.

Op you are spot on. Of course it prevents people seeking help.
Having personal experience of this, I saw firsthand how judgemental some in the professions were.
The mother is absolutely tarred with the same brush which is so counterproductive.
It causes more harm than good and the parent feels even more pressured.
Leaving a domestic abuser is so so so difficult.