People keep offering to help us move

[Cindyhadayellowcar]

I know this is the opposite of a problem. But. I'm tired. Everything I own is in boxes. The agent is being useless. I don't even want to move. And people keep getting in touch with heartfelt offers to help on moving day.

It's a bit weird, but when someone has gone out on a limb to day "I'm free, I can do car-fulls of stuff, I can bring snacks, I can help clean, what do you need? I want to help!" To say "no thanks" is a bit dismissive. I know not everyone will get what I mean, but if you are reading and you get it, any thoughts? Either how to say no in a nice way, or ... I don't know, I really don't think I want anyone to help. It'll be a bad enough day as it is, without people helping.

Stop sharing your business?

I don't understand what you mean Zekezeke?

Just say thanks for the offer but you're actually all sorted.

“That’s so kind of you Jane but I’m all sorted, thanks xx”

Just acknowledge the offers and say thanks but you’ll be fine, no need to fee bad or give a long drawn out explanation.

Are you actually all sorted for moving day or are you burying your head in the sand? Which one of these is your reason for wanting to refuse help?

How do they know you are moving? You are sharing your business!
Keep it to yourself, move, end of.

“Oh, that’s really sweet but I’ve booked in a couple of people already. Will let you know if anything changes, though”

I felt like that when I didn't like the people offering and because I'm very private and didn't want comments about my belongings. When someone is doing you a favour there is an expectation that you will have to act grateful even when they fuck up, you owe them a favour and you have to be hospitable and make a fuss thanking them. It's stressful enough and I'd rather I do it or hire professional strangers to help. I find it better if people would help with cash or.vouchers maybe pooling together for a moving van or a takeaway when I'm packing or when I arrive the new place.

What a weird post.

She’s moving - we don’t know how far - it’s the sort of thing that comes up - “no, I can’t do lunch next month because I will have moved away by then”

Maybe task rabbit vouchers so my furniture is reassembled, or garden vouchers or watching a pet rather than getting in my business..those people that offered me were so gossipy. One would forever moan how their back hurt or that they helped me. It just gets too awkward and I'd rather pack in peace and say goodbye to my place on my own.

I’m like this^. I can’t imagine someone’s packing my things , I know it’s supposed to be friends and relatives but even so. People do comment, it might be without judging just a comment but it annoys me.
And yes to not wanting to return favour afterwards and being so grateful forever etc To be honest I wouldn’t even want money or take away from some people for this “would have to return favour” reason.

Howevef I think the question about what stage you are on is relevant. If you’ve done everything- it’s better to say that. If you are not and the day is very near you’d better to be realistic about the situation, maybe consider professional packing service?

Exactly @pizzaHeart it bugs me having to be forever grateful for something I never asked for or wanted anyway. I have had to get more assertive with time to protect my peace of mind.

’Thank you but I have booked movers’.

Yeah, I get it - having extra people involved can make moving harder. A well meaning person once unpacked my kitchen stuff without cleaning the kitchen first - made so much work for me.

The best help we had was people doing small things we needed: babysit houseplants for a few days at theirs; bring round home cooked meals that just need to be heated up in the oven as all the kitchen stuff was boxed up. Can you redirect people to things like this?