Would you host overnight?

[Bedandbfast]

My brother and his partner are coming down for the weekend (2 nights). They asked if they could stay with us or should book the B&B down the road. Initially I said at ours was fine but I am having second thoughts.

I would offer to book and pay for the B&B myself in this case as they are travelling some distance and occurring costs to come to see us already. But do you think it would be weird/rude to suggest they didn't stay at ours?

The main reason is that DH and I would have to sleep in our toddler's room and last time we did this DH's snoring kept waking him up and it was a pretty restless night all round. It's just 2 nights, we'll live! But when I mentioned guests staying last night DH got a bit moody muttering about having crap sleep or needing to sleep on the sofa.

We've also started a renovation project and there is a bit more stuff everywhere/some boxes in the way etc.

We'd host them as normal, cook all meals etc. The B&B is a 5 mins walk down the road, they've stayed there before and enjoyed it.

I'm an overthinker so unbiased opinions welcome :)

If you’ve only got 2 bedrooms then I don’t think they should sleep at yours, unless you have a bed settee in the lounge, but that has its own problems when the child is up early.
No need for you to pay for the B&B as they are asking to visit.

If you can afford to pay for the B&B I would do that. They are literally just sleeping there and spending all of their awake time being hosted by you. This way they get a bit of downtime too and everyone gets 2 good night’s sleep. Sleep is a priority for me.

Thank you!

@DustyLee123 we love them, we weren't able to travel back home this summer, so they are actually doing us a favour being the ones coming to us this time, fitting quite a long journey between work commitments. So I'd definitely want to offer to pay, though I don't think they'd let me. We have 3 bedrooms but the third is a box room already being used by our other DC. The sofa isn't a sofa bed so not the best place to sleep for DH.

@WGACA sleep is a priority for me too, I get a bit overly anxious about it and wondered if this was clouding my judgement and normal people wouldn't care. When they have stayed before and woken in the night to use the bathroom it's woken the DC too (creaky floors). And trying to keep DCs quiet when they wake at 6am was quite stressful too!

I've-

No, we don’t have the room
That wouldn’t work for us

Definitely B&B, just for sleeping.

The only reason I enjoy having guests is because I have a spare room. If I wasn't in my own bed I wouldn't do it. BnB definitely.

I would also hate to be a guest if I felt I was putting my host out and I'd happily pay for the BnB myself.

Why do you have to move into the toddlers room? Why can’t you just put them on a blow up bed in the living room? That’s what we do with family and friends.

@CapEBarra we don't have a blow up bed but there is a double bed in our toddler's room, next to the toddler bed (as it used to be the spare room) so it makes sense to use that.

It's quite a small room though so the beds are right next to each other and when DH even just stirs in the double bed it tends to wake DS!

The B&B is now booked and I feel happy that everyone will sleep a lot better, thank you for giving me confirmation that it was OK to do!