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New job is hideous

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LoveHartnett · 27/09/2023 06:56

I started new role a month ago, something completely new to me but part of same industry etc Was so excited to get started, learn new things, but the moment I joined I've had about an hour of training, no context, no shadowing and all team members have quit and left or been signed off. So it's just me with no idea why I'm don't, my line manager is a waste of space. It's awful. I cry every day, and in complete misery. I need to take Kalms at night just so I can sleep and not lie there worrying every night.

Life is too short for this shit but can't afford to just quit. Am looking for another job but pretty rural with primary school kids and limited childcare options (currently wfh) Help me find ways to get through as I feel sick every day, worrying I'm making mistakes, not understanding things line manager wants me to do etc I feel like a complete idiot, but I'm honestly not, I just have no idea what I'm doing

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BettyPhuckzer · 27/09/2023 06:58

What happens when you ask your line manager for training?

OnAFrolicOfMyOwn · 27/09/2023 07:00

Is there anyone else other than your line manager who you can ask for support?

Avenueofcherryblossom · 27/09/2023 07:03

This sounds awful. I think your only option is to be proactive and keep looking for new jobs. Is there any chance your old job would take you back?

While you are still in this job push back and ask the manager to explain what they want and how to do the task. It’s not your fault they haven’t trained you.

PimpMyFridge · 27/09/2023 07:04

What happens if you make a mistake? Does anyone undeserving suffer?
I'd focus on the fact that they clearly need you just as much of not more than you need them, so if you make any error your response would be holding their face and saying yes, 'that was wrong but not surprising all things considered is it!?'
If they criticise you further your response could be 'i think it's only down to me resilience and determination there haven't been bigger mistakes sooner really, think you'd better help me set this straight'

So in your mind eye tilt the balance of responsibility back to them, remember they must be thanking their lucky stars you came along. If they make you feel any differently with blame coming your way, it's a bluff, they know and you know, they've chucked you in at the deep end and you can call then out on that...

If you can accept an error has been made likely by their actions and you won't be sorry or ashamed if it happens you might be able to let go and relax a bit... still unpleasant to be there, but sleep at night.

If innocent service users are in danger because if this is a safe guarding issue and maybe connoisseur flagging to a watchdog

PimpMyFridge · 27/09/2023 07:05

Holding their face 🤣🤣
Hahaha you could do that though punching would be more tempting but it was supposed to be gaze!

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LoveHartnett · 27/09/2023 07:06

BettyPhuckzer · 27/09/2023 06:58

What happens when you ask your line manager for training?

He is too busy, he ignored my last message. I have an AM who keeps promising to pull together a training plan but she has been off for last two weeks

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BettyPhuckzer · 27/09/2023 07:08

LoveHartnett · 27/09/2023 07:06

He is too busy, he ignored my last message. I have an AM who keeps promising to pull together a training plan but she has been off for last two weeks

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That's awful for you

Can you copy in HR and anyone else who is relevant and senior , to your emails to your LM?

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LoveHartnett · 27/09/2023 07:10

No one hurt if mistakes made, i just want to do well. Was so keen to take on something new, and excited to learn, was clear in interview that whilst I had dabbled, it was all about learning and developing for me, which was all well and good til shit hit the fan and I'm the only member of staff left in the team Confused

I feel horrible not knowing what I'm doing, just wish I could reverse my decision to move. My old team are cutting staff so not replacing me and getting rid of another person so no room to go back. I want to succeed and do well and move on! Gah, total shit show

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Totaly · 27/09/2023 07:13

I would take a step back, take a deep breath and see what you can find about training.

There must be a manual or system procedure somewhere you can read?

I would ask your manager for a meeting and calmly explain how you are feeling and what you need to succeed. Be positive. Be supportive and you’ll get it back in spades.

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LoveHartnett · 27/09/2023 08:01

Totaly · 27/09/2023 07:13

I would take a step back, take a deep breath and see what you can find about training.

There must be a manual or system procedure somewhere you can read?

I would ask your manager for a meeting and calmly explain how you are feeling and what you need to succeed. Be positive. Be supportive and you’ll get it back in spades.

There is no manual or written down processes which is a complete mess. Training has just been done by the person before and handed down until now when there isn't really anyone to hand it down.

LM has had a bit of AL and is so so busy (as his team has imploded) that he has no time, no one has any time, it's ridiculous. I just hate it, really hate it.

I have tried to speak to him about feeling overwhelmed but he just doesn't want to know, can't cope with managing people, much happier hiding in excel.

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PimpMyFridge · 27/09/2023 13:36

It does sound dire, hold your head high, you're working under circumstances practically designed to cause failure... make sure you toot your horn that this is what you're doing to anyone relevant so it's clear that anything short of a car crash is a success.

Not a solution but didn't hurt to remember that this is on them not you so try to let it go as much as possible while you look elsewhere.

Good luck

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