I'm so touched ....this is so sweet

[bemorebernard]

I'll have to name change but my friends little girl is special needs and very challenging, had flak on here before as friend really struggled and so I help out

I've backed off a lot , but still the little un texts me daily , she refused school a couple of weeks ago and I took her to school after both parents failed to get her there .

Im a trusted adult and kiddo trusts me . She's not very able to express herself and really struggles , she had an assessment which pointed to pda but the nhs assessment is a way off .

Now I know I'm not her mum or her aunt or anything really but tonight I found this through my door and I just have to share because all those saying I overstepped- clearly I'm a positive influence and I'm so proud of her . Her mum was speechless. She's never ever been able to attach or be this considerate to anyone before . She really struggles and so do her family , I really did struggle with comments here in the past about my interactions with her . But this absolutely makes me so proud of her . Her mum is a bit befuddled but grateful I'm around as when she's a handful she has me , and I adore the kiddo . Please don't flame me on this because honestly if you knew her you'd be gobsmacked at this level of selflessness she just displayed.

She comes round every night for an hour to see the rescue rats I just took and she is so amazing with them . She's been a pleasure to be around and then tonight - this through the door after last week she told me she hated me 😀.(I wasn't putting up
With her bollocks tho I am versed in all things autistic due to my eldest being autistic)

My heart almost burst . And I can't really say anything because I need to keep it causall rhoni did go round say thank you have a hug and tell her how thoughtful it was and how proud I am
Course I'm not her mum so I can't say proud mum moment but definitely proud whatever I am moment . Authority figure ? Sort of aunty figure ? Trusted adult person ? Whatever I am this is HUGE !

I'm Chat for a reason as happy for it to go after while .

Just so proud of her . She's coming on leaps and bounds with social interactions and she loves helping me with my rescue animals

Perhaps don’t post about someone else’s childlike this, especially if they do trust you.

Sorry I thought chat vanished after 30 days tho if it's hugely inappropriate I can ask for it to be taken down .

I mean that’s lovely and all but I think I’d be a bit gutted by this if I was her mum.

It's lovely and her Mum probably helped as the spelling is so good compared to the penmanship.
It sounds as if they both appreciate your friendship.

I'm good friends with mum and she was really proud of her
She posted on social media saying "if you knew my daughter you would know ...." but if this is really offensive I can take it down

Apparently she did this all on her own ! Mum didn't know until she posted it through my letter box

I'm happy for you, OP, and for the little girl. 💐

She came round yesterday to give me one of her school photos .

I really do get along with her , and her mum has so far been appreciative that I'm on hand . I dont think this would offend her . She often rings me if she isn't coping. Having had an autistic child I appreciate how hard it can be .

When I took her to school last week she said she hated me and called me from a pig to a dog

She texted me that night saying she loves me . She really needs boundaries. She knows she can be herself around me and I'll still be there . Lots of people misunderstood her . If she says go away(that's the polite version !) they take her at face value when she actually needs more understanding not less .

It's not offensive op, it's lovely.

Ignore the fucking miseries on here, they're probably jealous they don't get shown any appreciation because they walk around looking and acting like they're sucking a lemon while being stung by a wasp.

After the previous comments here I really stood back and took a long hard look at whether I was overstepping.

But my friend absolutely appreciates the help ( she's a single mum ) and she appreciates that someone else has her dds back because she's hard work and easy to misinterpret.

I'm often the voice of reason . She gets caught up in the fug, and I can because I'm detached say , is that worth a fight ? While being there when the fight is worth it .
The school refusal was a hill to die on as they say . The untied room that drives mom mad isn't ! So I'm detached enough to be mediator but close enough for her dd to feel she can come to .

I took 5 rescue rats last weekend and she's been so great with them , she's round every night now and she had a genius idea to get them more used to touch this evening so I really appreciate her help and she so caring and sweet with them

I wish I was her aunty sometimes because she makes my heart happy .

Anyway enough of this sentiment! Thank you for listening x