Can’t stop crying at everything

[Loomy]

Things seem bloody difficult at the moment, I don’t know why, on the face of it everything is fine although I lost my mum 6 months ago, my partner of 5 years cheated on me and we split up a few weeks back and DS has left to go to uni and probably a lot to do with it is that I’m not sleeping well and I’m run down with a cold.
I just keep crying in the evenings, once I get in bed and can’t get away from my thoughts. I just have thoughts of wanting my life back to what it was 12 months ago.
Anyone got on tips on how to switch it off at night? I mostly try to play meditation or audible or tv until I fall asleep.
Also need to spend some time focusing on where I go from here. I’m a planner and need to plan for a new happier me but don’t know where to start or how to motivate myself.

That's a lot to deal with, I'm not surprised you're crying. I'm sorry about your mum

I don't know how to advise really but maybe taking it steady and accepting how sad you are will help in time. Audio books and meditation sound a good option for distraction. Don't push too hard.

Get some bereavement counselling
For your mum and your relationship
And your ds moving on. That s a lot of loss
Be kind to yourself

Start making some positive plans for the future. Plan the Christmas Holiday with your DS (if you celebrate etc, it's just an example). Plan a solo holiday that you've always wanted to go on. Plan some pampering (hair, manicure, etc). Plan nice things to do on days off. Plan and arrange meeting up with friends. Give yourself things to look forward to.

Thanks @MidnightOnceMore maybe I am pushing too hard. I’m not used to having free time and feel so lost I keep trying to fill every moment.

Thanks @cestlavielife maybe I should look in to counselling it might be worth a try.

Thanks @CherrySocks lots to go at, I think that’s what I need to do to get me through the next few weeks then hopefully the new normal won’t feel so bad.

Very much this.

Plus some nice things in the diary

And a place where you can jot down all your ideas for the future

Something mindful, join a community choir, a walking group, etc