Hand hold: left abusive husband

[ScaredAndPanicky]

(Name changed)
My STBXH is away for the week. We have been married over 25 years.
Back in August I filed for divorce as I was slowly starting to realise that the way he treats me wasn't normal. After plucking up the courage to talk to women's aid I realised that there has been loads of coercive control and gaslighting going on. As well as lots of emotional abuse. He has broken a fair few things throwing them at me.
Over the past few weeks I have realised that he has been hurting the DC whilst I've not been in the house. They have spoken to the police.

So today I have moved out. We just have a few things that we could fit in the car. And I'm petrified that he might come and find us. Even though he isn't due back until tomorrow night.

I'm not sure I'm more scared that he will come and hurt us or that he will kill himself. He tells us that we are making him suicidal when we don't do as he tells us.

No real point to this post but I am sat looking at our bags of things and really hoping that life is going to get better now. And could do with a hand hold.

Look hard at your dc. They are the only ones in this that are your responsibility.. Well bloody done op. I left my ex when he was at work. He never imagined I meant I was leaving him.

Hope you're somewhere safe.
Maybe think about getting a non molestation order. Women's aid may help you obtain one x

You are very brave. It sounds like you have done the right thing. Stay strong. Be safe.

Hand hold from me. You’ve done the right thing for yourself and your DC. Contact the police and get the abuse on file, same with GP and school. If he does kill himself that will be his choice not your fault. The threats of suicide from abusers are manipulation.

Hand hold for here! Wishing you strength and hope for better days to come, even if it takes a while truly break free.
I was a teen when my Mum finally broke free, and it was tough at first, but in the end SO worth it.
Suicide threat, whether real or not is simply another angle of coercive control. That's on him not you.
Well done for breaking free xxx

Both the DC and I have spoken to the police and got everything on record. The DC have also spoken to a social worker.
School have been brilliant.

Womens aid have suggested we press charges but at the moment I can only think one step at a time and just needed to get out the house.

Well done. You are so brave and yes, it will be one step at a time but you will get to a better place, you will find yourself again and blossom. Your children are safe and know they are loved. You have the help and support you need, it’ll be ok 🤗 (hug not jazz hands) (although you can have jazz hands too if you want).

You have done an amazing thing !!!! Not just for you but for your children. You are a great mum and have put their safety first.
I don't know you but I am proud of you ❤

Ignore his suicide threats he's trying to manipulate you.

Huge hug from me! Well done! Just work on getting to a safe place and then enjoy it!

Handhold from me.

Well done . You are brave and doing the right thing for you and your babies.

keep posting - we are right behind you ❤️

If he threatens suicide if you don't do what suits him then choose yourself over his convenience. Your life is not a sacrifice to his convenience.

Please work up the energy to press charges, because later, you'll be told there's no proof, police report or it didn't happen, therefore you can't mention what made your life hell as it'll make YOU look bad.