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[Incrediblehulky]

I'm having a real crisis at the moment and feel so alone despite having a very supportive family and friends.
My husband if 25 years, 3 kids, has left me. He doesn't want the marriage anymore and wants to move on. I'm devastated. Our middle child has disabilities and I have a disability and my mental health isn't great. I'm consumed by grief and panic.
Has anybody been through similar and survived?

Not exactly the same but I remember the 'grief and panic' when my marriage ended - in 1988! Do the deep breathing, take things one step at a time. Get the legal and financial stuff sorted out. Accept that he's gone. Get angry - that helps. I got through - I raised my child and bought my house, had a job for over 20 years that brought me a small pension. You'll find your way. Don't waste your energy on him, though. If he tries to come back or if he starts making demands, stay firm. See a solicitor as soon as you can.

My exh left me with 2 young children (one later diagnosed with additional needs. ) it was scary at first but I got use to it and it was fine.
I kept the house and extended mortgage to buy ex out. He paid maintenance and had kids eow. I got family tax credit (as it was known) and had a part time job which I increased hours so financially I managed . In terms of kids /house work etc I already did a lot of it so I didn't notice a massive change. Stuff like appliances breaking down was a challenge but I managed.

Times like Xmas were tough as we alternated Xmas/boxing day. The first year I was alone I volunteered in a soup kitchen which took my mind off it.
I had some counselling which helped . Ex was abusive so whilst there were tough times after we split it was nothing like living with him. After a few years we were like strangers, the kids made their own arrangements to see him and I had nothing to do with him.
Now I'm married to a wonderful man who has helped me raise my kids and role model a healthy relationship to them. I can't remember the last time I saw ex at least 2 years ago I think. We are polite when we see each but there's no warmth there.