Good friend moved to Malaga a few years ago. We keep in touch every week and see each other occasionally, mainly when she comes here for work or one time I visited Malaga with my family for a city break, stayed in a hotel and we met up for a day.
Friend and I have been trying to arrange a girls weekend / city break away just the two of us, which would be my first ever night(s) away from my DD who is now 3.5. We were looking at Paris as we both like it there and had found a spa hotel which looked amazing, plus it's halfway between us both, but we were flexible about location and not wedded to Paris. The weekend away is a big deal for me as my DP goes away a lot but I never have, and since DD was born I've not missed a single bathtime. I've had a bit of PND and a tough few years with a toddler. So from my perspective it's as much about doing something for me, and taking the step of time away from my DD and letting DH be in charge of her for a whole weekend, as much as it is about seeing my friend and having some laughs too.
Although a part of me feels sad about leaving my DD (I know it's silly!) I was starting to get quite excited about the prospect of travelling alone, getting a flight, staying in a hotel room just for me, and feeling like a person again, iyswim.
Anyway friend has now said that she's struggling with her finances and won't be able to afford Paris anymore. This is fine and I understand. She has instead invited me to stay at her place in Malaga. I'm in two minds because although I can't wait to see her, I was partially looking forward to treating myself to a hotel stay (I've set aside the money already) and having a bit of R&R. If I stay at hers I will be sleeping on the sofa and sharing with her, her partner and their 12-year old. Their apartment is fairly small so I won't get much privacy.
If you were the friend would you be offended if I said I'd rather stay in a hotel, or wait until she can afford the trip to another city together? I don't know how to word the bit about staying in a hotel without it sounding rude towards her invitation into her home. But honestly a massive part of this trip was about me having a bit of R&R for me as well.... Not sure if this makes sense or sounds entitled!