How should I go about moving this situation on?

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I'm not sure there really is a situation TBH.

I have mentioned it here before if it sounds familiar.

I've been on a FB group for years and enjoyed some banter/strong discussions with a man with a shared interest who I've never met. For most of this time I was married and he was an interesting man I chatted to on an open forum sometimes, nothing more.

I'm now 2 years single and (bravely!) sent him a friend request, which he accepted instantly, but we haven't had any actual contact.

From his profile, he's an attractive single man, about my age, with strong views and a generally positive outlook. Plus the shared interest. Exactly my type!

He doesn't live that locally, but I'm in his area approx once a fortnight. In terms of "relationship" that would do me nicely.

Obviously I have no idea what his views on any of this might be.

So bite the bullet and send something like "apologies if I'm way off the mark but would you fancy meeting up, I feel like we might get on?"

Or is there a better way? Or is it just plain weird to approach him at all?

Send it! Otherwise you'll regret it if you don't. Life is too short x

Definitely do it! Do you think he'd automatically know who you are if he got a message from you? I don't say that to put you off but might help to reference the group

Yes he'd definitely know me

Then just do it!! It's not like you have to bump into him every day, worst thing that happens is that he says no thanks...

I know, that's what I keep telling myself, nothing to lose really, but....

Any other thoughts? I don't feel I've had sufficient yeses to take the leap 😆

Just message and say you're in the area on such a day and wondered if he wanted to meet up for a coffee?