DD and a racist comment

[Crazyjanes]

DD (4) said that she didn’t want to play with a girl in her class because she has brown skin. I’m absolutely horrified. What would you say to a 4yo to explain to her how wrong this is to say?

sit with her and watch this video. Have a chat to her about where she got the idea about skin colour from, at her age it should be mostly oblivious to her. I have a feeling she’s copied something she’s seen or heard.

Try and reiterate to her that we like people who are nice and appearance doesn't matter. Don't label her a racist or anything though, she's very young.

Id find this really odd. Kids generally play with any kids and don't develop these attitudes on their own.

Could she have heard this racist attitude displayed somewhere, maybe another kid at nursery said similar?

Where did she get this idea? Not her fault, she’s 4. There’s an adult behind this. That’s where I’d start.

(Do as others have said, obvs. Now she has said it she needs to understand why it’s wrong)

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=l_TFaS3KW6s&pp=ygUZQnJvd24gc2tpbiBjaG9jb2xhdGUgbWlsaw%3D%3D

I wouldn’t necessarily assume it’s come from anywhere, children are unusual creatures and their reasoning may not always make sense.

This video helped me understand how to approach the race discussion with a young child.

Wow that is shocking. Good for you to want to deal with this.

At this age, have a talk with her and tell her all people are equal, regardless of skin colour.

Put it into action- invite the child she was talking about on a playdate. She will soon learn.

I honestly don’t think an adult would have said this to her. I have never left her with anyone who would have said anything remotely racist to her. There is a chance she might have heard it from other kids at school but I don’t think so.

To give more context, DD is very loud and confident and has quickly made friends who she runs around the playground with before school. The girl she was referring too is quite shy - she clearly wants to play with DD and her friends but doesn’t quite manage to join in. I had a word with DD about including this girl and that’s when she came out with the skin comment.