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Don’t know how to proceed with situation next

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Windmill34 · 25/09/2023 19:31

So fell out with partner a week ago.
after I told him how I felt about the situation he told me “ I’m not arguing “ and never spoke after that till nearer tea time.
I now realise why he does this , it’s to shut me up so he doesn’t have to discuss it any further

This as been the same thing for nearly a year, I can never get a final answer/response from him
Things are mainly left in the air and nothing is carried through because he disagrees with my idea.

im still argue with him for once again shutting me down, I’m sick off it
I haven’t made conversation with him since, as maybe it’s the childless in me and he has onky asked questions like
if you want anything from shop text me
whats for tea
Absolutely No mention of us not speaking or about previous words before No speaking started.

Last Monday night he was watching bikes on tv
as I didn’t want to watch that I went into other room and started watching tv in there.
On the Tuesday night he turned round and said
“ as you went in there last night, I’ll go in there tonight “. and it’s been like that since !

We've been together 21 yrs , no kids and tenants in common.
It just feel now that he’s quite happy with this situation in the home, he’s doing his own thing just going out, just going to bed and not saying anything or goodnight kiss
whereas me I can’t stand it, I feel there’s a massive atmosphere and it’s upping my anxiety (which I suffer with)

The thing is I do not want to say/bring it up
only to get the usual shot down but I know he is just waiting for me to just start talking and things will go back to normal without him discussing anything.

How do I handle this ? I’m so confused and also so angry about his attitude to dealing with things

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vincettenoir · 25/09/2023 19:48

I think you are right he is planning to continue to stonewall you on what you fell out about.

It sounds like you are in a desperate place but however frustrated with him you are, giving him the silent treatment treatment is not a very reasonable or effective way of dealing with the problems in your relationship. And it probably goes some way to explain why this is has been ongoing for a year.

I guess you need to consider if you can continue in the relationship if he won’t address this issue that appears to be of some important to you.

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