OLD chats

[Grumpyold]

Maybe (probably) I'm a bit rubbish at this, but I've really tried.

E.g. today someone sent a message about one of my pictures. At least they tried to make it about me/my profile, rather than the How ru messages. So I sent a reply asking a question. He came back and we had a total of 6 messages, so not OTT. Then his last response is just a statement with nowhere to go next.

I've had a few of these, seem quite friendly, didn't ignore a message, but it's almost like they've set it up so I'm the one who doesn't message back.

Also, how many messages is normal before "someone" suggests an actual conversation/meet up.

I’ve no idea really… my current partner whom I met on old wasn’t great at communication in the first few days… almost convinced myself he wasn’t interested… but I persevered… turns out he just isn’t that great at communication, and we’ve been quite happily seeing each other for a while now… I don’t think there’s a rule. Go with your gut feeling. If you like someone, don’t be afraid to be more forthcoming. The ‘if he likes you you will know’ is not always accurate, especially with ND people.

You'll know when it's a person worth pursuing/letting them pursue you. I don't go for a Q&A style approach, it's dull, not me, I don't like it men don't like it. Instead I try and have a bit of banter with them, throw in an obscure question about something completely left field that will kick start a conversation (or demonstrate he's got no personality).

If it all kicks off in a positive way then I'll give them my number and go from there.

Yes, that's what I've tried to do, and it goes OK for a bit, until they don't throw anything back.

I did online dating for over 3 years and met my DH online. let the man do the chasing. If the convo dries out then just forget it and move on. I know it's frustrating but don't try to convince anybody to want you. Keep
Moving on and you will meet the right person it will work with. Good luck!

After a few back and forths leave a voicenote or say 'I'm intrigued to hear your voice you got two mins for a chat?' Or try to call through the app - it's just a quick way to weed out people you won't get on with

I get the same OP. I give them 3 chances to ask me a question or comment on something in my profile. If they don't, I unmatch. Makes me think they would be deathly dull in real life.