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Housing Dilemma. Advice welcome.

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KeepOnChurning · 24/09/2023 09:14

DH and I have been renting our current property for over 20 years (very lucky I know). Our landlady has told us she is planning to sell when our contract is up in 11 months time.

Sod’s Law means a house in a perfect area came up recently. We viewed it two weeks ago and have been accepted out of 22 other applicants. However, we have a dilemma:

We are family of 5 (2 adults, 1 young teen and 2 primary aged children) and a dog (small spaniel).

DH is employed full time but I’m a SAHM as youngest DC has complex needs.

Due to a very difficult time when DC3 was going through diagnosis, I had to unexpectedly give up work and we lost my whole salary in less than a month. Our credit scores plummeted as we tried to keep afloat but our housing costs were always paid in full and on time. We were upfront with the agency about this.

We still have 11 months left on our current home contract but our landlady has said she will allow us to exit it if we find something suitable sooner.

The home we have been offered is in a good area and is closer to DC schools and DH’s work.

The house itself does not meet all of our “desires” but it is a nice home with some downsides. However, the area outweighs this.

The issue is, we do not feel prepared to move. We expected to have time to save for costs, put some things right in the current home before leaving and just prepare ourselves mentally.

If we accept the new offered house, we could cover moving costs but finances will be very tight. If we wait, we can easily be financially prepared.

DH thinks we should wait as something better will come along. I think we should take the house as competition is so fierce, there may not be another chance. We also don’t have the credit history to sell ourselves above other prospective tenants.

WWYD?

OP posts:
Janieforever · 24/09/2023 10:00

I don’t understand why you viewed and made an offer to rent, if in fact you’d not decided to do so. And if money is tight now. You need thousands and don’t have it, how can you save up thousands in that time?

Iwillpassthanks · 24/09/2023 10:01

Your DH thinks you can’t afford it.

But you think you can.

that doesn’t seem an easily resolvable situation nor one that can be resolved in a few days. Presumably you need to make a decision very quickly

Iwillpassthanks · 24/09/2023 10:02

You viewed this property having done no financial calculations re whether you could afford it or not

that speaks volumes to me

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Iwillpassthanks · 24/09/2023 10:02

Was this property the first and only you viewed?

Viviennemary · 24/09/2023 10:05

So are you intending to rent this new house or buy it. If it's rent then move in and then you can look again if it turns out to be not suitable. I wouldn't risk a last minute panic finding a house.

pinkdelight · 24/09/2023 12:33

Properties are as rare as hens teeth and the market is so competitive.

Well there you go. Grab it and make it work. Moving is always costly but you haven't had to for decades and you can actually afford to. Madness to have this in your hands and chuck it back. Get it done, get through the belt-tightening and hopefully you won't have to move again for ages. Agree it's worth seeing what extra you could earn when your DH is at home, even if it's just babysitting some evenings.

KeepOnChurning · 24/09/2023 13:05

@Iwillpassthanks We viewed this property and only this property because it was the only one which has a delay in availability. It will not be ready until end of December.

We are not totally incompetent (well, mostly); we know we can afford the property by the time it is available otherwise we wouldn’t have viewed it.

We just would have preferred a bigger financial cushion to fall back on which we will have if we wait.

OP posts:
KeepOnChurning · 24/09/2023 13:07

@Janieforever I’ve clarified above, sorry I didn’t make this clear in my OP. The issue is the feeling of rushed and tight saving in a short space of time, but it is manageable.

OP posts:
Iwillpassthanks · 24/09/2023 13:45

KeepOnChurning · 24/09/2023 13:05

@Iwillpassthanks We viewed this property and only this property because it was the only one which has a delay in availability. It will not be ready until end of December.

We are not totally incompetent (well, mostly); we know we can afford the property by the time it is available otherwise we wouldn’t have viewed it.

We just would have preferred a bigger financial cushion to fall back on which we will have if we wait.

Yes I thought as much

You have lived In same rental property for two decades

I think you’d be surprised to look around and get more experience and really nail what you want

Blondeshavemorefun · 24/09/2023 13:59

You have bad credit - a dog and you don't work

I don't means this rudely. Just facts

Are you likely to find another house and ll who will accept you with those conditions

My friend rents and has a dog and has had real issues in the past trying to find a place

Assume new place has 4 bedrooms so a room each ?

Or what is wrong with it ?

KeepOnChurning · 24/09/2023 15:31

@Iwillpassthanks A very good point you make.

@Blondeshavemorefun Yes it has four bedrooms. There are minor factors which don’t suit but I believe are workable. For example, there is no parking but there are parking bays further along the street. It also has no room for a dryer and a very small garden to the front but nothing to the rear.

You are right, we do not sound like a good gamble on paper to prospective landlords and this is my worry if we pass it up.

OP posts:
Iwillpassthanks · 24/09/2023 15:56

when can you return to work? If you have 11 months that should be enough time to get work and then be a much more attractive prospective tenant family

SparkyBlue · 24/09/2023 16:04

@Iwillpassthanks the OP has said one of her children has complex needs. It's really not as simple as just going out and getting a job in those circumstances.

Iwillpassthanks · 24/09/2023 16:09

SparkyBlue · 24/09/2023 16:04

@Iwillpassthanks the OP has said one of her children has complex needs. It's really not as simple as just going out and getting a job in those circumstances.

Agreed

but many children so have complex needs and their parents both work. So it’s worth the question at least as we don’t know the extent the need

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