What's the average amount of time off

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People take from work when a relative dies? I know it varies but talking loss of a parent. Especially a parent they had little or NC with.

Average for this? A week or two. Often much more. Sometimes delayed.

I wouldn't base any decision to give an amount of leave on how close I understood the relationship was - it's none of my business and rarely straightforward.

Really hard to say.

For parents generally, if the death is not premature/unexpected, where I work most people take until a week or two after the funeral. If longer it's usually because the death has led to a mental health issue, so the compassionate leave then becomes sick leave for, e.g. depression.

Most reasonable employers would accept 'death of a parent' at face value and allow whatever was the usual amount of leave for that, without delving into how close you were - that would be a very inappropriate conversation to have with someone just bereaved.

If this is about you, I'm sorry for your loss.

I imagine it varies a lot. I found out my father died on a Friday lunchtime at work, went home obviously as it was a shock. We weren't close, and he was in a home with dementia for a few years before his death. I went back to work on Monday and was fine, just took a couple of days for the funeral later in the month. I am sure my work would have understood if I asked for more, but I didn't need it. I was mid-30s though, had not lived at home since I was 19, had had a lot of time to mentally work through my issues with him.

I was NC with my dad & I took the rest of the day off when I heard the news. That was the only time I needed but it’s so personal to everyone based on how they feel/grieve.