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Housing, leaving relationship etc

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Question111 · 22/09/2023 22:34

Hello all,

I know I may need professional advice but CAB were unable to see me and I couldn't get through to UC. So hoping someone may have an idea.

Currently I live with partner, have 2 children and work full time. We live in a house I can't afford along (rent £1500 pcm). Looking to leave the relationship but I'm a bit stuck.
A standard 3 bed around here is £1000 pcm. With my paid income and universal credits, I'd be able to cope living alone with my children. However in order to move into a rental property alone, I need proof of my income (I think for 3 months) to show I can afford it. The problem is, I can't afford it without claiming UC but I can't claim UC until I'm single. However, as soon as I'm single I have nowhere to go and can't afford to live.
Presumably the ideal option would be partner moves out, I claim and then take on the rent etc but I can't afford to live in this house. I need to move somewhere cheaper but can't without UC on top of my wages. What am I supposed to do?
Thank you in advance.

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Question111 · 22/09/2023 22:35

Sorry that meant to say work part time.
If I worked full time i would earn enough to rent alone. However, I have 2 children in school in different locations. I have absolutely no family or support near and I'd have no childcare .

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SmokeMeAKipperSkipper · 22/09/2023 22:39

You can split up, but still be having to share the same house, and make your own UC claim. I don’t know the ins & outs but have seen the info on previous threads.

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Question111 · 22/09/2023 22:50

Thank you, I did wonder this. If we could live together as a separated couple and me claim and him make up the rent? But I assumed this would affect my claim. Also he's abusive so I'm not sure if he will be willing to help me out.

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SmokeMeAKipperSkipper · 23/09/2023 08:37

If you are leaving an abusive relationship and have children then speak to the council and get on their housing list asap, speak to womens aid and shelter.

If you get this thread moved over to relationships, or start a new one titled ‘housing, leaving abusive relationship’, there are lots of very knowledgeable posters on those threads that will be able to offer you a lot of advice.

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Question111 · 23/09/2023 09:18

How do I get this moved to relationships?

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SmokeMeAKipperSkipper · 23/09/2023 11:08

If you report your original post (report tab is on the bottom right of your post) you can send a message to MNHQ and request they move it for you.

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